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Ok this is a long story so please hang in there with me. My boyfriend who im just call “C”, is 32 years old and I am 20 close to turning 21. He has been married to his high school sweetheart for ab 7 years? Ab 3 years ago they decided to separate and she moved out. Him and I have been together for almost 2 1/2 years. C and his wife have yet to divorce. I have given him the ultimatum to either sign the papers, or I am leaving. By May, if they are not signed I’m walking. Because I have waited so long, I have some deep seeded resent for him and sometimes it’s hard for me to try and understand why it has taken so long. Keep in mind, not only am I dealing with him still being married, I’m having to deal with them texting everyday, telling each other night and love you everynight, and he also goes and visits her once a week and goes out to dinner together, dutch but still. I have become so jealous and aggravated with this and I do not think it is fair to me. I drives me crazy..He has been they only guy she has every been with and he tells me that they want to stay friends. He just recently stopped spending holidays with her family but they still give each other gifts and such. He tells me he does not want to be with her and they do not have children so I don’t really understand why the process is taking so long. He does not know if he ever wants to get remarrried and he also does not want to leave where he is currently living for at least 6-8 years. We have gotten to the point to where we do not appreciate each other and don’t show affection like we should. He says it is my negativity and that I should work on our communication with one another and not worry with his divorce. I just don’t see why I should try when at the end of the day I’m not sure whether he even wants a divorce or if he even wants me. I just don’t know what to do anymore. There is other parts to the story this is just some common things I deal with. Thank you so much…
-hurt&broken

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re investing your time and energy in a married man who doesn’t get divorced because he doesn’t want to get divorced. 🙁 If he wanted to, he would have by now. You’re trying to fool yourself into thinking he will — and that’s not working so well. 😕

Wake up and smell the coffee. Read your post to me as if you’re me and not you. 😉

Why don’t you find a man who is single and wants to be with you and only you? 😉

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