[Ahsia]

First of all i really do feel a little awkward doing this but at this moment in time I’m willing to try anything and everything.
I met him months ago at work, we worked night shifts together (12 hours) was supposed to be 3 of us but the third person was on holiday so me being a new recruit relied on him for help through the night. First 4 nights he was really nice and helpful we became close instantly, he showed alot of interest in me. On our 10th shift together (still the 2 of us) ending up kissing. Nothings was ever the same from his side he become distant and started to ignore my messages etc. We weren’t together but something was there.
Anyways after next 2 month my contract ended and i left that job. We were still in touch but barely. He’d be the one ignoring my messages blatantly and started ignoring my calls. I rarley called him in fear that he’ll ignore it. After 6 weeks of me leaving he randomly messages making conversation saying he’s bored etc. I wasn’t working at that point do was free ended up seeing him that night around 1 or 2 am. Went for a drive etc ended up making out. He was with me for good few hours… After a day he disappeared again… (I’m sorry i know it’s a little long but i want you to know as much as possible) …
Anyways we spoke here n there but would end because he’d start ignoring blatantly again. Wouldn’t talk for weeks until i message again like an idiot. Until one day i messaged him telling him that i do like him and I’m only telling him to get it off my chest. His response was “lol don’t worry about it, I’ll chat to you soon” after that i decided to give up. So deleted his numbered and disappeared from social media completely. Stayed on snapchat though, after about 6 weeks or so i realised that he has deleted me off snapchat. (Not sure whether he thought I’ve blocked him off all social media so he deleted me) but yeah at this point i was back on social media and coincidently had a new Snapchat account so i added him. He almost immediately accepted the request i messaged him later on that day and he spoke to me like never before, we messaged all night decided to meet the next day (he asked me to book a day off work and i did)but he had to delay (genuine reason) he kept me hanging all day all night making me think he’s coming to see me. Didn’t say he can’t make it. At night after 3 or 4am i messaged saying I’m going to try n sleep. After that the ignoring starts again and has been like that since.
I messaged him last on monday. He ignores it :(…. i know it’s pretty obvious that he doesn’t want me and that I’m being stupid but i do like him alot. Anything and everything triggers the memories and i end up n ring weak again.

I could really do with some help and advice please. I have alot of hopes.

Thank you for listening 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I don’t know how old you both are, but in general, if you want to be a girlfriend or a date, then you have to act like one. And you have to allow the guy to treat you like one — or not, and if he doesn’t, you have to understand that he’s not interested in dating you. It sounds like the two of you made out at work and then he became distant. That’s not a good sign. 😕 Then he started ignoring your calls and messages. Another bad sign. 😕 Then you “ended up seeing him” at 1 or 2 a.m. That’s a booty call, not a date. Driving around and making out doesn’t show he’s into you — it’s kind of the opposite. And then he became distant again. Then you tell him you like him. 😯 And his response is “don’t worry about it”. This isn’t a guy who is interested — and I’m wondering if you need a neon sign to get the message. 😳

Look — you may want this guy, but he really doesn’t want you. My advice is to be realistic and put yourself out of misery. top contacting him and look for someone who’s interested in you as a girlfriend. 😉

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