I’m Yassy 22 and I’ve been dating a guy since last month. He is actually sweet and attentive and I’m so happy when I’m with him. I really like his jokes and the way he talk but sometimes he suddenly disappears or avoids me and it confuses me. There are times he didn’t reply on my texts for 1-2 days and when I asked him why he didn’t respond, he refused to give me a clear answer.
I really like him and wanna trust him but I want to make sure we’re on the same page. I don’t want to waste my time for nothing. Are there signs I should look for that show if someone actually wants a relationship or is just playing games?
If someone disappears for two days without telling you in a month of dating, they are not busy, they are checking out options.At 22 years old, nobody is so occupied that they can’t send a single text. The truth is that when he is with you, he is “sweet” because he needs your attention, but disappearing is a sign that his interest is only based on his convenience.
These guys play the “hot and cold” game to keep girls “intimate” so that the girl thinks about them all the time. It is a kind of manipulative technique so that you always try to “please” him and show your importance.
I think you should take a lesson from the “AskApril” books and give this guy an ultimatum of clarity. If he’s disappearing now, he’ll be a complete ghost in six months. It’s better to next him now than to waste time!
He is kind and caring, but then he suddenly disappears. That means he is not consistent.
Well, you’ve only been dating for a month, so my advice is to observe his behavior toward you more. And if you’re still not sure about him, don’t close yourself off to other people. That way, in the end, you won’t lose out.
