Hi April,
I have been in a solid relationship with my live-in boyfriend for about 7months now. However we have been dating for about 3 years. I recently just had a dose of reality when it comes to my own faults and I feel that it will break up our relationship, and I dont want that to happen. He went out of town recently for the weekend with a family member, and through that I realized that I do not trust him, although he hasn’t given me a reason not to, and I am very jealous. I got mad at him when his phone was off, and I couldnt reach him. I automatically assumed he turned it off on purpose and I overreacted. I have shown this type of jealous and insecure behavior before, and last night it kind of all blew up in my face. He told me that he is starting to get sick of me, and if I dont’ change my behavior then he will start to hate me. That really tore me up. I want to be able to trust him and not be jealous, but past relationships have left me so hurt, that it is really hard for me to trust someone, and I must admit I do have jealousy and inscecurity issues. But I have a really great boyfriend, who I know is not cheating on me, and I just want to figure out how to change these issues about myself. Since last night, I have noticed a change in him, and he wasnt as affectionate or loving as he was before the incedent. Im guessing he just needs time, but I am afraid of losing him. I’m willing to work as hard as I need to change these issues that I have and work on the relationship, but I guess I am just confused as to how I can do that. What would be the best way to rebuild the relationship without pushing him away? Also how do I fix my jealous, insecurity and trust issues? I really want this to work. Please help.
