[loverrrgirl]

I broke up with my boyfriend and he was crushed. A few months later, we still were talking and started to fall back into the swing of things, and I realized I had made a huge mistake, even though we had just decided to be able to sleep with other people. I spent Thanksgiving break at his apartment with him, and we realized we are totally still in love with each other. Even though we had agreed to casually see other people, I found out that he had feelings for someone else, too, even while telling me how much he still loves me and wants to get back together. This girl is also kinda involved with someone else, so it’s not very healthy for anyone.I told him that he can’t have both of us, and that I’m sorry for hurting him but I do want him back and that I ended my fling with the other people. He says he “doesn’t know” what he wants to do about either of us and isn’t sure if he wants to give either of us up. I can’t bear to lose him again…what should I do??

[Ask April Masini]

I know you’re upset that you broke up with your boyfriend, and now that you want him back, he’s dating other people and isn’t interested in a monogamous relationship with you.

Giving him ultimatums won’t work. What you have to do, as you would when you like any guy, is give him the opportunity to win you back! You can’t chase him — you have to let him chase you. You should download my book, Think & Date Like A Man, written for women who want to find Mr. Right — get him and keep him! You can buy it for $15.95 right here. [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]

You can’t start off from where you left off because he’s moved on. You’re not in the same places that you were when you first started dating. So accept where you are now, and be your best self who’s trying to get the guy (read the book!) but don’t throw any guilt at him. What he did was fair. And his wanting to date you, as well as others, since your break up, is fair too.

If you’re not willing to just date now, then you may decide that moving on is all you’re interested in doing. But if you do want to date him, Think & Date Like A Man will really, really help you! 🙂

I hope that helps!

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