Dear April,
I have recently started bonding with a coworker. We haven’t known each other very long, but we ended up hanging out a lot for the past few weeks outside of work and talking for long hours about work and our personal lives. A few days ago, we were watching a movie at my house and he kissed me. I understand from our talks that he wants to be friends with someone first before pursuing any kind of relationship and I respect that. However, after the kiss, I may have gone a bit overboard with my texting, calling him things like “babe” or “sweetie” and maybe texting a bit too much and for the past two days, he hadn’t really been responding to my texts. I’m not sure if he’s busy or if he’s distancing himself, but it went from texting all day to no replies at all. I sent him a text last night asking if we’re okay and replied saying we are, however I haven’t heard from him at all today and he usually texts first. I think he may think I’m pressuring him into a relationship. I haven’t seen him in a few days as we have been working different shifts, but I will be working with him tomorrow. I don’t want our friendship to end and I do hope that eventually we may end up together. What can I do to salvage the situation? Should I ask him if there’s anything bothering him or should I just pretend that nothing happened?
Thank you.
