[Sean]

Hey April,
I’m Sean, 21 and I have been talking to a girl from my college class for 3 weeks, her name is Ashley. We get along really good. She laughs at my jokes, we text almost every day and she even asked me to hang out after class. I feel like I’m falling for her.
The thing is… I’m not really sure if she is actually into me or just being friendly. Sometimes she is super into our conversations but other times she seems distant or didn’t reply to my messages. I don’t want to overthink but I also don’t want to misread the signals and make a move at the wrong time.And she also do that to other people like her friends. That’s why I’m still confused.
How do you even tell the difference between someone who really likes you and someone who is just being nice?
Thanks!!!

[Michaela]

First, do you like her? Because if you do, the way to find out if she likes you is to make a move, especially since she has already shown some signals. That’s what a real man does.

For me, that’s the fastest way to know if she’s into you or not. But if you don’t actually like her, then there’s really no reason to figure out whether she likes you back or not.

[Logan]

Sean, confusion only happens when the other person hasn’t given you a clear “Yes.” If it’s not a ” Yes,” then for now, it’s a “No.” Don’t overthink it and ruin your peace of mind, ask directly or change signals!
You said, “I don’t want to make a move at the wrong time.” The truth is, there’s no such thing as the wrong time, only the wrong person. The longer you delay, the deeper you’ll fall into the friend zone.
I think you should make your position clear. Ask her out on a date that doesn’t feel like a friendly “hangout” but is clearly a date.
What’s your expert advice on this, AskApril? I’m waiting for your guide on how to handle this!

[Member]

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