I’m in the process of trying to reslove things with my fiance, who broke up with me less than 3 weeks ago. Problem is, she won’t communicate with me. It had been 2 weeks since I was last at the house. I thought it best for her to stay. I’m so displaced right now, but thought it was the best decision. Tried to compromise, and both stay till end of lease (3 more months), but she wasn’t having it. If I stayed, she would leave. We haven’t talked in 15-16 days. I was at the house yesterday, trying to pack what I could. Every sign of me and our relationship was removed. Pictues were not up. Almost everything of mine was put in spair bedroom. Only a few of my gifts to her were left out. After over 3.5 years, I never thought this could happen. I’ve never seen her so cold and distant towards me. I need to try to see if she”ll figure out that this isn’t the right decision, basically give me a second chance. Other than my impulsive buying and not always taking the fastest way home from work, I don’t know why she’s acting this extreme, why it’s something we can’t work out. My spending was on very small purchases ($10-$20, once $100), and not that often. I have a hard time dealing with the holiday’s after losing my mother day after Thanksgiving, and not talking to my father in 4 years. I’d take a drive sometimes after a rough day at work, and had a hard time explaining it. I’ve never cheated and given her no reason to believe I would. We were still sexually active 4 days before she exploded on me. She professed her love to me every day in multiple ways. She told me throughout every week of 3.5 years, that she could never live without me, that I was her world. I got these texts a week before she asked me to leave. How could she change her mind so abruptly, and show no signs of how she was. She’s the sweetest woman I’ve ever met. Selfless, with a huge heart. How can she just shut it down? I left a heart felt letter, explaining what I thought about everything, good and bad. I apologized throughout, and explained that I’m seeing a counselor to address my issues with being selfish. How much time should I allow? If we were so strong for so long, how could this happen? Why couldn’t she communicate her issues with me, prior to saying that she can’t handle it any more. I proposed to her 4 months ago, and she gave me a very emphatic yes. Why say yes, if she felt it couldn’t work? Is there any chance she”ll come back?
