[liquid1983]

I have been with my g/f or as of last week fiancee for 2 and a half years im 26 and she 27. Things were very physical in the begining but hard cause we both lived at home, i realize they do slow over time. We both openly expressed this was hard with parents around and openly vented about it. But it really dwindeled after a year and a half year and going a five month stretch accoured which we blamed on our living situation and her having a medical procedure in the middle, ware she was sick for a month and a half. We broke the streak on Valentine’s day But i voiced soon after that, that length of time affected me and i felt un-attractive and un-desired by her. She ressoured me that she wanted a physical relationship with me but that it was the living arrangements making it so diffcult. Well emotioal were great talking openly about getting married, having children and so on, and know we are now engaged. I always complament her, give her affection, little love notes or flowers from time to time i try exetremly hard to make shure shes sees how i feel about her. And she does her part of making me feel important overall as well in those specific areas.

We have been living together now for 6months and engaged for a week and physicaly things are still pretty non-existant, although a medical issue has know came into the picture as well, she has excessive bleeding down there, she is going to the doctor and that problem is slowly getting resolved. I have voiced kindly i need more attention in that department alot of times now, in any way shes willing to give it, but nothing happens i know if i ask for and kind of sexual intimacy im getting turned down or met with a dismissive joke. Know it pretty much leads to a fight if i bring it up and she villianies me for wanting a physical relationsip. Which i reply whats wrong that i so strongly want to expearince that with you. I realized at points i was comeing across as a nag, im not blind and i have really steped back from voicing this as much. I Iove her to death and i believe shes loves me just as much she is extatic about the wedding, having children with me and i about her.

I do not want to start a fight, but it is a problem it mentally is making me think she is not attracted to me or is not intrested in me like that?

[Ask April Masini]

First of all, are you living together at her parents’ home? Your parents’ home? Or do you have your own apartment? Living with parents in the same house can definitely be a problem that you need to correct!

Second of all, ask her if you can go to the doctor with her and discuss your concerns with her or him together. If there is truly a medical issue, you need to be understanding, but also knowledgeable about what’s wrong, how long it’s going to be problematic, and what the expected prognosis is.

If those two things don’t help, then you need to put a hold on the wedding. It sounds like aside from living with parents and a medical issue, there may be something else going on, and I don’t know what it is — and neither do you. You need to talk to her and express to her that your sex life is important to your relationship and that you’re not happy about it. If she doesn’t care, then she’s not the one for you.

Normally, the beginning of a marriage is a time when sex is at a peak because there are so few obstacles and lots of joy and intimacy. If you’re missing these things, you may be getting married for the wrong reasons.

I hope this helps — and let me know what’s going on after you read this and talk to her.

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