My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and now I feel like he’s hiding something from me. He always comes home late and he doesn’t let me touch or check his phone. Sometimes even on his day off he still leaves the house and I don’t know where exactly he’s going, he just say he has a meeting. Whenever I ask him and try to get specific answers, he get angry and even shouts at me. One time my friend called me and say she saw my boyfriend at a cafe like he is waiting for someone. When he got home I asked where he had been and he said he had a meeting with a client but he refuses to talk about any details. He’s always mad at me now and doesn’t seem interested in being with me anymore. I feel sorry for myself because of how he treats me. How can I get out of a toxic relationship like this even I still love him? I feel like he is the one pushing me away.
What kind of meeting happens on a day off? Unless the guy is Elon Musk, nobody has ‘business meetings’ so urgent that they’re just sitting in a cafe twiddling their thumbs. The truth is, he’s out there doing some “New Recruitment.” He wasn’t waiting for a client at that cafe; he was waiting for a ‘new option’ that’s probably still on the pending list.
Love has its place, but this guy is licking your self-worth like a termite. He is making you feel “sorry for yourself” so that you will never dare to leave him.
Stop asking him for “specific answers”, he will never tell the truth. There is no need to check his phone; his actions are all CCTV footage.
Well, first of all, since you are partners, you have the right to ask and know where he is going. And if he truly has nothing to hide, he would let you touch or see his phone.
I’m not saying for sure that there is something going on, but we also can’t be certain that there isn’t. It would be better to have a serious, honest conversation with him about this issue so things can become clearer for you and so your worries can be reduced.
