[Anna Shanelle]

Hi April,
I’m 24 and I just broke up with my boyfriend of about a year. At first I thought I was okay but now I keep thinking about him all the time and it’s really hard to focus on anything else. I keep replaying moments in my head, wondering what went wrong and I feel stuck between wanna reach out and knowing I shouldn’t.
I want to move on and heal but I don’t really know where to start. I also don’t want to rush it and make things worse for myself emotionally but I keep thinking him and our old beautiful memories together. He is my first love and suddenly we broke up for some petty things that I know it wasn’t worth a fight.
How do I actually get over and start feeling like choosing myself again? Are there ways to deal with the sadness without just bottling it up?

[Gerald23]

It looks like you really love him and you’ve become very attached to this person. Try to distract yourself and do things you enjoy. What are your hobbies? You can also keep yourself busy, hang out with your friends, or even be open to other possible relationships and try dating again.
Those are some of the usual things people do when they’re moving on, but in the end, it’s really time that will tell when you’ll fully move on and heal.

[Arslan]

If the matter was so small, why did the breakup happen? The truth is that those small matters were actually “trailers” of big problems. A person gives up on small matters when his heart is already full.
I have seen that most people believe that first love is sacred. Dear first love is often just a “learning experience” so that you don’t make such mistakes next time. Stop taking it personally.
You are stuck because you are holding on to hope. The day this hope dies, that “maybe it will happen,” healing will begin automatically. Moving forward, the world is very big.
April, what do you have to say about this? we are waiting for your expert advice.

[Karyll Jane]

Try to distract yourself with other things like going out with friends, traveling, playing mobile games, and other activities you can keep yourself busy with so you don’t always think about him.
Keep yourself occupied and you’ll be surprised one day you’ll realize he no longer comes to your mind as often because your focus has shifted to other things.
The key to moving on is staying busy with other things. Try doing things you haven’t done before.

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