[Mariz]

Hi April,
I’m Mariz 42 and I just ended a long-term relationship. This is hard for me, even though I know my decision is right. I keep thinking about him all the time. I catch myself replaying memories, wondering what went wrong, and sometimes I feel like I’ll never really move on.

I want to focus on my children and finding myself again first, but I don’t even know where to start. I’ve tried keeping busy, talking to friends, journaling but the feelings just stick around. How do you actually get over someone you really cared about without feeling stuck or bitter? Are there ways to move forward while still honoring what the relationship meant?

[Almina Micaella]

It’s normal not to be able to move on right away—that’s really how it is sometimes, especially when you’ve deeply cared for someone.

In my opinion, in your case, only time can really tell when you will fully move on. You can still move on while respecting the relationship you had with him; there’s nothing wrong with that. But it will just be harder for you if you keep holding on to the past.

[Cessymay]

It’s really hard to move on, especially when you truly loved your ex deeply. But try to think about your children — they need you. And for sure, they will also feel sad if they see that you are not happy.

If what you’re doing right now still isn’t helping you move on, then maybe time is the only thing that can really tell when you’ll be able to heal.

[Member]

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