[Jaxy37]

I’ve been going out with my boyfriend almost 2 years now and I’ve always had this huge imagination of endless fantasies (I’m a woman by the way). I’ve always asked him about threesomes and he’s always said no even with another girl. Well this last Friday I went to a party and a friend of mine, I’ll call her Hayley, I’ve been friends with since high school was there. We see each other once in a while but we started to catch up. She takes sex extremely lightly, numerous partners and threesomes. We got to talking and decided we should have a threesome. I’ve always wanted something like that and now was the perfect time, I thought. Well basically we were all really drunk and I started to not desire the threesome any longer and just sleep. She kept trying to convince my boyfriend but he didn’t want to and kept telling my other friend he didn’t. Well eventually he agreed with Hayley and she seduced me and I gave in. The whole sexual act wasn’t very long. He mainly focused on me and I did stuff to Hayley to keep her entertained. It wasn’t exactly a threesome but he fingered her. That was it between them. The day after I was fine with it until the following day I got to thinking. I feel as if our whole relationship is tainted and it’s my fault because I wanted to do it all. Now I feel like he isn’t mine either. It’s kind of weird also to think we’ve only had each other for so long and now that’s ruined. We had that kind of Notebook by Nicholas Sparks love and now it seems as if that purity has been diminished. Will we get over this? Is this the beginning of the end? I’ve learned my lesson and will definitely save crazy sex fantasies for my single life. Is this the end of the road for me and my lover? Will we ever be able to get past this strange experience?

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

[quote]Will we get over this?[/quote]

Probably not. If you read this forum regularly, every now and then there are questions about threesomes, and without fail, they always doom relationships. They never work in the long run. 🙁

[quote]Is this the beginning of the end? [/quote]

Yes. Threesomes usually signify the beginning of the end of the relationship, but when that end is coming is hard to gauge. Sometimes one party wants more threesomes, and the other doesn’t. This creates tension in the original relationship, and the one who does, eventually goes out and finds one. Other times, one party starts to see the third party on the side. But you’re right — a threesome changes the dynamic of what you had.

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[Jaxy37]

But that’s the thing. I don’t want to go out and do that. It was kind of always a fantasy and then it just happened within a blink of an eye. If I had been sober I wouldn’t have wanted to at all. It was hardly an actual threesome since they didn’t have sex and barely touched each other. We both agreed to never do it again and I know he doesn’t want to either. Despite how much I love him and want to get past this you think I should break it off?

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

[quote]Despite how much I love him and want to get past this you think I should break it off?[/quote]

Not unless you want to. 🙂

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