[Zandro]

Hey,
I just want to share my situation and look for some advice. Btw, I am 31 years old and you can call me Mr. Z. I started dating a girl named Trixie. So far, things have been really good. I believe there’s a strong connection between us.
The issue is, last week we had small disagreements. We had a misunderstanding about schedule. I thought we will meet in the evening but she expected me to come earlier and then she feel like she’s not my priority. It turned into argument.
This is not the first time something small has turned into bigger issue and now I to notice how we both react.
Since the relationship is still new, I want to build a healthy foundation instead of bad habits. I don’t know what the “right” way to handle conflict like this at this stage. How to address and how to communicate better.
Is this kind of thing normal early on? And how do you handle disagreements without making the relationship feel stressful?

[Karyll Jane]

In that situation, as a man, you should be the one to give way. If your girlfriend is angry, don’t match her anger because if you do, both of you will end up clashing and it can lead to a bigger fight.

Understanding and being humble with a woman does not make you less of a man. If you love your girlfriend, you should be the one to give way when she’s upset. Don’t escalate things, try to comfort her and be affectionate, because most women respond well to being reassured and soothed.

[Amelia]

In a new relationship, people often mistake every little mistake as a lack of love. If the appointment was scheduled for 7 pm instead of 5 pm, it doesn’t mean Mr. Z doesn’t love; it just means they need a Google Calendar!
You shouldn’t forget to take a stand for yourself just for the sake of being a Gentleman. Communication doesn’t mean that one person should always be the one apologizing; it’s about confirming the meeting time on WhatsApp beforehand so that Trixie doesn’t get frustrated while waiting.
You should tell Trixie, I consider you a priority, but I’m not a mind reader!

[Member]

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