[carlyp]

I met an alpha male on a dating app recently. for two weeks we both played hard to get which kept his interest and we created a special chemistry ( as much as one can over a texting relationship).After two weeks I got frustrated with him for not asking me out and sent a passive aggressive message to which he replied “ok”. I immediately sent an apology text ( I am not needy, nor desperate) but he doesn’t know that since we never met in person. Now he hasn’t responded in days to my apology. Have I lost him for good or is there anyway to salvage something that could have been? I’ve seen advice on how to win an ex back, but not much advice on how to fix a budding connection that never had a real chance.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Bottom line is that you need to be patient when you’re meeting people on dating apps. There’s competition! He’s meeting other women on the app where the two of you met, and he’s talking to them and even dating them. That doesn’t mean they’re going to be his final choice, or that he’s not interested in you, but you have to give people you meet online, time. A two week deadline in which to produce a real life date, from an online prospect, isn’t always realistic. My advice is to give it three months when you meet online or on an app, and if there’s no date by then, definitely move on. In the meantime, play the field! If you’d had other opportunities with other prospects, I don’t think you’d have lashed out the way you did. Take your time, and really get to know people and use those dating apps efficiently! They can be wonderful tools.

I hope that helps. 🙂

[Jake]

Two weeks of texting is not a “budding connection,” it’s just time wasted. Forget about it and make your list longer. When you have 5 options, you won’t cry when one says “OK”!
AskApril is absolutely right that you texted in anger because you had no other options. She says that you should also “play the field” (i.e. meet other guys) so you don’t go crazy after one.

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