[mr. magoo]

met a girl 5 years ago, there was sexual tension, kept in touch with her thru facebook and email, we had a lot in common, we were both into making films/music, she liked my creative writing. We both moved back to the town where we met, she was getting out of a 2 year relationship, she kept saying how we have such a connection and how alike we are, we even kind of look alike, someone said we looked cute together a couple weeks ago even tho we’re not together… so a couple times I said something to the effect of me liking her, and she said something about just getting out of a relationship, not being ready to date, doesn’t like me like that, but then we’d have all night conversations where we talk very openly and she says she can’t talk to anyone else the way she does to me, etc, and then i say some more things to the effect of i like you, you should date me, and this time she doesn’t say no, we kinda argued and it felt like a relationship argument, but we’re friends, but there’s this tension, I also rarely get to see her, she works a lot, has other friends, other projects, but we always have this connection or tension but the opportune moment isn’t there. Do i need to just give up? she probably likes hearing that I like her, but if she really was interested would make time for me right? i get tired of trying to ask her to do things only to hear that she’s busy… she doesn’t really text me first, only rarely… do I just withdraw my attention from her and make her miss it? I probably fall into the nice guy category who’s too available and too willing to listen and all of that… but when I tell myself i’m not going to think about her anymore or want her anymore she does something to get under my skin, also maybe she likes it when I’m more challenging to her, disagree with her or other things, maybe that’s refreshing compared to the guys in her life who are just her yes men.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re stuck in the friend zone. 😮

To get out of it you have to ask her out on a date and if she agrees to go, start dating — and if she doesn’t, move on. If you continue doing what you’re doing (having all night phone calls, being available to her, acting friendly) you’ll stay in this terrible situation and you’ll be losing out on opportunities to meet other women who actually want to date you. 😉 Make the decision today to stop being her friend and to start dating her — or else move on. 😉 It’s that simple.

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[mr. magoo]

Is it fair to other women to date them if I’m hung up on this other girl?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Yes. It is “fair,” but it will hold you back. 😕 If she’s not available to date you because she doesn’t want to, then you might want to reconsider how hung up on her you are. Think about being attracted to and dating someone who’s attracted to you and wants to date you right back! 😉 I think if you’re open to dating others, you’re going to let go of your hang up.

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[mr. magoo]

I think you’re right. If another girl wants me it will be easy to get over the girl who doesn’t.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You got it! 😉

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[mr. magoo]

Hi So thanks for the advice, things are better in my life, i have someone new.

However I’d like to delete my account and can’t find anywhere to do it. I just don’t like a lot of accounts floating around the internet. If you could help me delete it I would appreciate it.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Your account is anonymous. If you stop posting, there will be no more activity here. 😉

And congratulations!!

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