Your husband doesn’t feel like he can talk to you about this, so he’s looking elsewhere for help. That’s why he’s approaching your family, friends, and strangers on the internet. He thinks you’re going to feel threatened, angry and betrayed by his confusion about his sexual orientation, and he doesn’t want to face you and your feelings on this topic. 😳
Whether or not you are threatened, angry and betrayed, or any other feeling, isn’t all that important. It’s normal. You’re married, and the two of you need to discuss this problem because it’s not just his problem. It’s now yours, too.
My advice is that you open the channel of communication and approach him. Tell him what you’ve learned and how you’re concerned and why. Ask him to share his feelings with you, and get the conversation between the two of you started. You’ve lost intimacy with him because he’s afraid of your reaction. You’re entitled to your feelings, as is he, and you have to share them with each other. I think he’s going to be relieved at being able to talk to you about this.
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