[laurieann]

Hello, I am 16 years old. I’m at what seems like a stand still. I’ve got feelings for one of my best friends. We’ve known each other for only about 4 years now, but he was one of my first new friends when I began classes at a new institute in town. Since the spring semester of 2016 we’ve grown very close and talked almost everyday. Some nights we lay out under the stars and talk on the phone for what feels like hours. Lately I’ve realized I really like him. I have deep feelings for this guy. He’s everything I have ever wanted in a guy. He’s the biggest dork I know, he has the same religious views as I do, he’s nerdy, he’s sweet, he’s my best friend. This past Saturday night I went to see his show that the institute put on. I took a semester off this summer so I wasn’t there with him. Afterwards when I saw him it was the happiest reunion. All i felt was so such happiness. There was a little squeal, really tight hugs, at some point in said hugs I was in the air and oh, he makes me the happiest girl in the world. We always tell each other we love each other, but I don’t know if he has the same feelings towards me. He’s my best friend and I don’t want to ruin our friendship, but I have such profound feelings towards him. What do I do? I start classes back with him next month.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re in the friend zone! 😕 Time to get out. You’re not really his friend — because friends don’t have romantic feelings for each other. So stop acting like a friend, and start flirting with him, so he’ll know you’re interested in romance, not friendship. If he gets a clue from you that you like him as more than a friend, he may feel more confident about asking you out. 🙂

[Eric Morgan]

Get rid of the idea that “the friendship will end.” The truth is, you’re not his friend anymore, you’re the girl who has a crush on him. When you call yourself “just a friend,” you diminish your own importance in his eyes.
Be smart! Make him realize that you’re not a “sidekick” he can use whenever he wants. Bring a little “sharpness” to your personality. He should feel like you’re a prize he has to work hard to earn. When you show him that you’re happy and confident without him, he’ll come running after you.

[Member]

Posts