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I have been with my boyfriend for 1 yr. we have our differences here and there but we work through them. He was the type of guy that never communicated with me about what bugged him etc. He told me that he will try. He will tell me that he knows what love is because he found me, i was his everything, and he saw us in the future together. I believed him and i gave it my all. i loved him a lot. Just recently out of nowhere he told me he didnt loved me as much as i did, that he couldn’t be with me anymore. i was heartbroken. He always would defend his friends so much, i felt that they came before me, he likes to go drinking with them, and i felt that being with me he was missing it. we had a talk and he said no. recently before our break up he went our drinking and got wasted, he told me he liked how he felt being with out me. He told me that he just doesn’t know. He loves me and cares for me and still wants to be part of my life. I try walking away when he said it was over, and he grabbed me and said no, lets just try. I talked to him the next day, because when someone tells you they aren’t happy and do see you with them in the future what is the point of trying. I am so confused. Please help!!!

[Ask April Masini]

Well, you have every right to be confused and heartbroken. HE’S confusing and heartbreaking! 🙁 If he hasn’t done this flip flop routine before, my suggestion is to back off, and give him space to decide if he wants to date you or not. As hard as that is, no one should be with a man who doesn’t want them! 😳 If he has done this before, then you have to realize he’s not stable enough to be in a relationship without causing hurtful drama.

If he’s not certain whether you’re worth his time, than he’s doing you a BIG favor (although it may not feel like it at the moment) by letting you know he’s not Mr. Right and allowing you to free yourself and be available for a man who DOES want you.

I’m sorry you’re hurt, but if he isn’t the one, it’s better to know now than later.

Let me know how things go — and click on ‘become a member’ of my Facebook page, AskApril.com on Facebook at this link: [url][/url], so we can talk there, too.

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