[unsungwindham]

Ive been dating the love of my life for almost a year now. We moved in together 6 months ago, have 2 wonderful puppies together, and both love each other very much. Over the past month however, her intimacy has plummeted. I am a very needy person when it comes physical and emotional touch. When I am not getting it for a long time, I start to become unstable, and start to look elsewear for a quick lay (strickly physical, no emotion, looks or anything like that are involved.) I just want to be cared for for a few minutes.
So I cheated on her. One day before work, I had hooked up with a slutty co-worker. I went to her because she was easy and would give me what I needed and not ask any questions.
Word started to get out that I had cheated on my GF. So once I heard that I instantly had to come clean. I wanted to be completely honest throughout our relationship. I came clean because I wanted to be able to maybe save something that we had. I love her so much, i want to be with her for the rest of my life.
How can I get her back? I’ve done everything romantic in the book, now Its up to her I guess.
Is there anything I can do to make her forgive me and maybe accept me back into her life?

[Ask April Masini]

I think you’ve blown this one. The problem you appear to have is impulse control and lack of maturity. 😳 (Sorry, but it’s true!) You put your own needs ahead of hers, and it’s impossible to have a relationship when someone who needs sex and isn’t getting it enough, decides to cheat to feel good, rather than work things out within the relationship. You didn’t really say why your intimacy with your girlfriend plummeted, so I’m guessing it was a normal slump. But your inability to communicate with her and make your sex life come alive again with her is going to be a deal breaker for ANY woman you’re involved with long term.

Until you deal with this problem that you term as “needy”, and she can see you’ve changed, I don’t think you can get her back. 🙁

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