[JBLover286]

ok I know I am only 17 but my bf just broke up with me. we only went out for 4 days, but I was caring for him, I had feelings for him. But what I need to know is last year I went out with someone and we was going out for almost a month, after a few weeks he was saying stuff to people; saying stuff to me; after all that and he broke up with me, he was trying to get me and my friend to fight because we were best friends and he knew that, he went with her. Ever sine than if I go out with someone I am worried about that, I’m afraid I will find someone like that again or worse, a guy who hits girls. I don’t know what to do, thats all I can think about is if I go with someone and that happens again. Me and my ex that just broke up with me; we are cool; but he told me and other people that he would like to go back out but he wants to be single because his ex broke up with him on Valentine’s Day, and something that happen in his passed he didn’t want to hurt me from it, but I don’t get that, he saying he don’t want to hurt me of his passed but he wants to go back out with me. The only thing I need answered is how can I fully trust a guy and that won’t do that to me??

[Ask April Masini]

The best way to protect your heart is to understand dating — not easy for you at 17 years of age, but I think you can begin to get it. 😉 When you date someone you’re taking a chance with someone you don’t know well, and you open up your heart when you get to know them. Going into any relationship you have to understand that it might or might not work out. In fact, most relationships DO fail, and the ones that last are the exceptions — but does that mean you should close up your heart and not take a chance at love and life? NO WAY!!

It’s better to have opened your heart and lost than never to have opened your heart at all. Ultimately, what high school peers say about you is [i]short term[/i] hurt or elation. What matters in the long run is that you trust your heart, life and dating, and you know that some young men won’t be right for you, but some will.

I hope that helps!

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