[Anonymous]

Hello, my name is Rob. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend Kaitlyn for 3 years. We dont get see each very much due to college. Well lately i have been feeling like i put forth so much more effort into the relationship than she does. When we argue i always just give up and let her have the last word just so we will stop and shell be happy. I will do everything she wants to do just so she is happy even if im not comfortable with it. I do everything i can to make her happy. She wont even apoligize for arguing when she started it. I dont know how to talk to her about this without more fighting and me just giving up again. I mean god, i gave up Yale for her and she doesnt even seem to appreciate it. I need a womans advice. What should i do?

[Ask April Masini]

It’s great to be generous, but you’re giving up things for your girlfriend and feeling resentful. 😳 If you can’t give things up without feeling okay about it, then you shouldn’t be giving them up. There’s no reward for being a martyr in a relationship. Being flexible is very important, but being a doormat is not such a good position.

Stop giving up things and holding out unrealistic expectations that your gift will yield some result. You’re learning that just because you give up something doesn’t mean she’ll give up something in exchange. Now that you’ve learned that, you have the opportunity to change YOUR behavior! 😉

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