[Maa]

So this is somewhat a long story.. I’m on my vacation and need to figure this out before i see him again in the new year..
I’ll start with me and say i am an outgoing person, with an interesting sense of humor. I wouldn’t call myself popular but I do have a lot of friends and am liked by quite some few people.

1 Year ago: I was in a committed relationship for 5 years past at the time and I met this guy at a mutual friend’s party. When i first walked in I didn’t notice him because all of my friends there and they all ran to talk to me. It wasn’t until about halfway he came up to me and started talking to me about strange things he liked and such and he kept calling me intimidating. ” you’re so intimidating, if i saw you at a club i don’t think i would come up to you because you would tear me apart”(obviously flattering) “you’re just so intimidating” etc. Needless to say this got annoying very quickly and i wrote him off and just started hanging out with other people.. I had tried right?

7 Months Ago: I had been dumped by my old boyfriend over the summer and had just come back to school this current year.

4 Months Ago: Once again at the same mutual friend’s party i attended i ran into that guy again. This time he was far less annoying however he still went on about the intimidating thing and long story short we went out and he told me i was out of his league and he took care of me when we went out that night. so i decided perhaps i should look into being this guy’s friend we had clearly gotten off on the wrong foot. so about 3 weeks later there was another party and we talked a bit more he still went on about the intimidating thing but thankfully moved onto other topics.

I decided the next day that i would ask him to go for coffee so i could get to know him on a platonic level without alcohol involved Because he’s always around and he’s the only one i didn’t realy know. So the following day we went for coffee and it lasted about 3 hours which is a long time for just coffee to me especially with someone you don’t know. That weekend there was another party and we talked and then the following day he asked me to go for coffee again which we did and this time it lasted for 5-6 hours. there was phone calling in between, seeing eachother on campus, some text messages
So all of this happened within 2 weeks of getting to know each other.

the following week he invited me over to his house and we walked his dog and watched a movie and hung out and then as we were departing we miscommunicated and he ended up saying he didn’t see me like that because he didn’t know me and i hadn’t put myself out there he just assumed and it was a mess up. either way i told him i had just gotten out of a relationship and wasn’t looking for a boyfriend. Furthermore, the next boyfriend i would have i’d want to be really good friends with first and he said[i] “okay let’s do that”[/i] and then he asked me to [b]go see a movie with him the next day.[/b]

Over the past Month 1/2: Me and this guy have spoken in one way or another every day. We go on pseudo-dates. For example: 3 Weeks ago we went [b]to his house, for dinner, a walk on the beach, and then back to his house where we just looked at each other. [/b]
He tells me things he doesn’t tell our other friends, about his personal life, about his family. He says he’s most honest when he’s around me.
He tells me i’m not allowed to meet his brothers because they are too attractive.
We have lists of movies we want to watch together
He went to the club one night even though he didn’t want to because he didn’t want to disappoint me
He spent hours helping me with my papers in school
When we talk he stares into my eyes and doesn’t falter he really pays attention to whatever i’m saying if it’s serious and gives me his utmost attention which is somewhat unsettling for me haha.
Lastly he compliments me all the time, he tells me i’m beautiful, he tells me i’m pretty, He tells me how physically attracted to me he is, he tells me how the girl’s he’s most attracted to are the one’s he’s the most intimidated during a dinner at a restaurant.
He tells me he wants to see me before either of us leave for holidays.
He made me CD with songs that reminded him of me (however cliche) he doesn’t do that for other people.

I’ve asked all of our mutual friends if he’s like this with him or if he’s different, and they all say he’s never acted to this extent with them like he does me.

All this would lead me to assume he’s interested in me.
But I cant assume with him for 4 reasons.
1. He’s genuinely a nice person, he’s vegetarian so if you told him you’d never had veggie food before he would offer to cook for you.
2. He always compliments people, it’s not odd for him to tell someone he thinks they are pretty.
3. He hates texting/facebook so i could never wait for him to message me first or something like that because he would rather see you in person and hang out with you.
4. Lastly, he told me 2 months ago he didn’t see me like that when we first started hanging out.

I know i should just ask him, however i’ve been so adamant with saying i don’t want a boyfriend right now so i feel like i shouldn’t because i’m not ready to truly get rejected by him because at this point i do like him but i’m just not ready.

I’d say at this point i’m looking for some sort of validation that i’m not making this all up in my head and reading into it. Does he sound interested or does this sound platonic? Am i in denial? Is fear of rejection holding me back?

Help?

[AskApril Masini]

He likes you. You’re not in denial. 😉

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[Maa]

How are you so sure?

[AskApril Masini]

Based on what you wrote and my experience as a relationship expert. 😉

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