[Noname209]

I don’t think the guy I like is interested like he used to be. I am a freshman in high school, he is a sophomore. I asked him to homecoming before and he said yes, we are still going, but when i try to text him he normally answers right away, but now he takes hours. idk what is going on 😥

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Two things are going on. First, you’re over-eager and hyper focused on his reactions. That’s creating anxiety for you. 😳 Know this: if someone doesn’t respond to a text for a few hours, that’s very normal. It may just mean that he has a life! 🙂 Very happy couples wait hours to respond to each other via text. It doesn’t mean there’s a problem. Now, if someone doesn’t respond for a couple of days, that’s less normal. So reset your bar on text responses.

Second, don’t forget — you’re the one who asked him, not the other way around, so it makes sense that you might like him more than he likes you. Otherwise, he would have asked you. If he doesn’t seem that interested any more, the reality is that he might not be. I know you’re disappointed, but sometimes this happens. Remember — when you pursue someone, that makes you the pursuer. Switching roles and expecting him to pursue you, when you asked him for the date, is going to create anxiety, which is what’s happening. That said…. you can flirt with him and try to engage him and try to get him interested in you — 😎 and that might solve the problem!

[Rayan lee]

Oh friend, there’s really no need to stress over this! If he takes three hours to reply, you take a full six hours to get back to him. Let him think you’re super busy and that you have a thousand other things to do besides waiting for his text.
And in my opinion, show up to Homecoming with such a massive ‘glow up’ that he deeply regrets those late replies. He should feel like he’s won the lottery, and that you did him a huge favour just by saying ‘yes’ to a sophomore!

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