[Karen295]

I lied to my boyfriend so what do i do?
Weve been together 6 years and have a 4 year old. My boyfriend went to the moose the other night with his friends. I am friends with his friends too. I do have a habit on snooping, looking up his mysprint account to see who he calls. So he called this girls # while at the moose i found out by the call history. It made me worry, so i lied and told him a friend of ours, crystal, who was at the moose that night told me that girl was there and that he was flirting with her. He totally denied it and said it was an old friend he ran into, jessica, and the reason he called her was because one of his guy friends got into a fight with his wife and jessica left with the wife. The guy friend kept calling them and no answer so he wanted my man to call from his phone. My bf did call my friend crystals husband to ask him y crystal was telling me lies about him flirting with jessica. His friend told him he didnt know anything about it but hed ask her. So its been a few days and i havent heard from crystal. I expected her to text me right away if she heard about all this. I just didnt wanna admit i had looked up his phone records so i lied. Please help, i just pray this all blows over and lesson learned, no snooping.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You have more than one problem going on here. 😕 Snooping in your boyfriend’s phone is probably just the tip of the iceberg. I’m guessing you’ve already snooped in other of his private things — or you will! The reason you’re snooping is because you’re insecure in the relationship and that’s the second problem. If this is founded in reality and he’s really given you reason to be insecure, that’s one issue, but if you’re insecure because of something in your past, and this mistrust is chronic, that’s another issue.

Since you have a committed relationship and a child together, I think you should let this go for now, and focus on figuring out why you’re having these feelings that lead to this behavior, and work on the catalyst — not the symptoms. 😉

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