[Anonymous]

Mr man and I sarted seeing each other 3 years ago….. I wasn’t that attracted to him, but he was a good guy and was CRAZY about me. We really enjoy each others company and really connect on all levels, so eventually we got it on, and in the beginning sex was a regular thing……… WAS a regular thing. The last 2 years we have been living together we have sex maybe 3 times a year, and 2/3 of the time he dosen’t even finish, as he is too concerned about the consequence of impregnating me. I love him, he and I fit in almost every concievable way, except physically. It has come to a point where I fear all sexual attraction and chemistry is DEAD!!!! I try to initiate things but he either dosen’t respond or the sex is boring without him enjoying it…… I really don’t want to end things, I really love him deeply, and can’t imagine my life without him, but right now it feels like we are just brother and sister, best friend roomates…. you get the picture… What do I do… What are the tricks to bring that spark back and even make it stonger…… I need to fix this because I can’t stay with a man that can’t see me, or make me feel, like the awesome woman I am, even if I know he loves me and would do anything for me. PLEASE HELP ASAP, as the longer I go without physical attention the easier it is to rationalize having an affair, which I DO NOT WANT!!!!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, if he’s anxious in bed because he’s afraid of getting you pregnant, you need to start using birth control (which you should have been all along! 😕 ). This is a very real fear for a man (and for a woman), so if he thinks you’re not using birth control and he’s not using birth control and he doesn’t want you to get pregnant, the math adds up to a bad sex life! So see if that helps.

If not, you need to jump start your sex life. This is easy to do if you read my book, Romantic Date Ideas. The book will show and tell you how get the X back in your sex life — which it sounds like you could really use! There are dates at all price points, in the house, out of the house — you name it, it’s in there. Here’s the link where you can download the book automatically and start reading (and dating) tonight!! [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/romantic-date-ideas.html[/url].

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