[Jayman7]

The first time me and my girlfriend of 4 months attempted to have sex i wasnt able to perform due to fatigue and liquor. I reassured her that i dont have any problem and neither is she the problem, but she has been hesitant to sleep with me since. Its been a month and we have went out multiple times since then, gotten very touchy feely with no action in the end. She has stated she wants to do it but than states she is nervous about it. Im trying to be patient but i want to know how to fix this issue as fast as possible. We both have expressed many times that we love each other and want to share each other physically but this is stifling our needs. What more can i do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are you both?

[Jayman7]

I am 32 and she is 34

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Got it. So you’ve been dating for four months now. You waited until month three to initiate sex and it didn’t go the way you hoped it would. Now it’s been a month and there’s been no sex since. So, basically, you’re in a rut, early in the game. What you need to do is seduce her. Candle light, dinner, a bubble bath, a couples massage, wine and roses — you have to bring your A game to the bedroom. Because things didn’t go so well last time, focus on her first and then the two of you, if you know what I mean. You want to bring her the kind of pleasure that will keep her in the game. 😉

Hope that helps. Let me know if you have any other questions.

[Jayman7]

Yes thats helpful advice. Yesterday we went out drinking and we had a great time once again touchy feely and while we were out she said she wanted to have sex. I said the same thing. When we were in the cab and we got to her house she said that i should call another cab service around her way to drop me home. I was under the idea that i was gonna stay with her and she said her house is messy and but next time we hang out let her know beforehand that i wanna spend the night and she will “prepare”. The cab got there to pick me up and we were just kissing over and over and couldnt get off each other. She said she wanted me to stay and i said i will tell the driver to leave but then she was being hesitant again. She kept telling me she loves me and when i got home she said she wanted to have phone sex, which we did. I guess im beginning to chip away at her defenses…but taking your advice should probably do the trick faster. What do you take from that situation?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

That you’re moving in the right direction! 😎

[Jayman7]

Lol i will take that. Thank you

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome.

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