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- January 29, 2012 at 12:52 am #4910
Dave79Member #134,187I know this a VERY long read, but I don’t know what to think… Personally, I have a strong feeling for her (even though we met only once and have chatted numerous times) What does this look like to you guys / gals… Theres a part of me thats telling me to back out, and theres a part of me thats saying stick around you might regret leaving… I’m 32, I’ve been out of a longterm relationship (1yr if thats considered long lol) for 12 years. Yes, I’ve had a few dates, nothing serious during that time.
Here’s the complicated part … A girl wrote to me on a dating site (I’ve met a few on there already, nothing worked out) She’s 23 years old, I’ve repeatedly told myself that my age limit would be 25… but we started chatting and we seemed to connect. By the way, she works 10-13 hrs a day in a gym.. shes a personal trainer, her only day off is Sunday.
So, I went ahead and met her on a friday night at 10:30(she finished at 10:20) We had a beer at a small pub next to her work. At first we very timid (i’m shy at the beginning but lose it quick) then the conversation took off, 2hrs later, we walk out holding hands (at this point, I really like what I see so far and shes great) Walk her to car and we chat there a bit, it’s getting cold and she tells me that she has 1hr road to get back home , she starts at 10am in the morning so would need to leave at 9 in the morning. I tell her I have a spare room at home, that she could sleep there if she wants (i’m 15 minutes from there) She accepts we prepare the bed in the other room , and she asks if we could watch a movie, we do, we cuddle (lies down on me) and that’s it. Movie ends and she says could I sleep with you, I accept. We go to bed cuddle some more, and she falls a sleep in under 5minutes.
So next morning , she gets to work, we kiss at 3 different occasions. (at this point I’m trying to figure out what the heck is going on) This is last Saturday now.
We talk the whole week by phone, (she calls me every night since it’s long distance and she has unlimited… her choice on the calling part
😛 ) Wednesday she tells me on the phone, I really enjoy being with you. I say well me to, but we met only once lol So anyways we setup a meeting for this Saturday (today) to go to the movies..(never heard about any of the following until she called me that night) Friday… time goes by no call… I call, leave a message asking what’s up and to confirm for Saturday. She calls back at 11pm saying shes on the road with her sister and that she came out of a surgery but couldn’t go forward with it cause she had a migrane but they did an anestasia to her anyways, and it was cancelled… I ask her what the surgery was for , she said to me, I can’t say, it’s complicated only my sister knows.. I ask if its cosmetic she replies that she would never do that… So I have this big question in my head now wondering what the heck it is. I say I will respect that choice and we talk a minute or 2 and hang up. (she wasn’t feeling well at all she had mentionned)
Today, Saturday…I call at 10am no answer. Lunch, i recall no answer leave a message saying hope your well, are we still on for tonight ?
4pm I recall, nothing… (this is exactly how I have been turned numerous times, the woman just stops calling / answering, being to afraid to turn me down on her own) So I recall at 9pm, (maybe to quick.. but its to late) I say to her, Well we can forget going to the movies, does this mean you have flushed me or what ? I say if not, please call me, let me know whats happening.
I decide I’ll watch a movie at home , I go on Facebook (yes shes a friend on there) I write on my wall, I’m gonna watch Paranormal 3 tonight any comments on it ? People answer and such, then she responds quote “Hey . Good choice in movie:) I’m exhausted:( rough week. next weekend I should have a day off. Sorry my phone is dead.”
I send her a PM and I tell her about how I thought she flushed me and that I left her a message, she said no worries, I apologize for the quick conclusion. She says its ok, and recalls me at 11pm and we talk.
January 29, 2012 at 5:28 pm #22096
Dave79Member #134,187So pretty much, I’m wondering… may she be avoiding me and maybe seeing someone else in the meanwhile ? Keeping me on hold ? I feel like that, I mean she is on a dating site so I suppose guys contact her every day. January 30, 2012 at 2:58 pm #22160Ask her out again. 😉 If she goes on the date, then she’s interested. If she doesn’t, she’s probably not.It’s a good idea to get out of your head, and just get out there in real life. You’ll be a lot happier.
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