[Loverboy15]

Hey so there’s this girl that interested in that I’ve been friends with for a long time but I have really strong feelings for her. I actually consider to be my best friend that is a girl. The problem is it’s more complicated than that. Her family and my family are very close with one another and my father has been friends with her father since High School. I feel like it may make things awkward between our families if we were to start a relationship. But I’ve kept my attraction a secret from her because I feel like she probably only thinks of me as a close friend and I don’t want to get the “I don’t want to ruin our friendship routine”. There is also the fact that I’m physically handicapped so I feel like maybe that would be a turn off for women. To be honest I’ve never had a girlfriend before but all my friends have and I really would like to be in a relationship. I’ve heard from some people that the best way to move from being friends to more than that is making physical contact (which don’t really have the ability to do without making it obvious) and flirting which I’m not very good at but I’d like to get better at it. I don’t really know where to go from here especially because I’ve had feelings for girl that I was friends with before and they all rejected me. I really don’t want to screw this up I’m more attracted to this woman than anyone I’ve ever met in my life. What should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, don’t worry about rejection too much. It’s part of the bigger picture, and the secret is that if someone rejects you, they’re saving you from wasting time on Ms. Wrong. So try and understand rejection happens. That said — this may not be a rejection! 😉

Second of all, flirting is very important in dating. It makes women feel good about themselves because they know that you find them attractive. It also changes the nature of the relationship from platonic to possibly romantic.

Thirdly and most importantly, because this woman is a family friend, there’s probably a weird feeling of incest because your family is friends with her family. The best way to get rid of that weirdness is not to slide into a relationship, but instead, to formally ask her out on a date. That way there’s no mistaking your intention as something creepy.

As for being handicapped, I’m not sure that that has anything to do with your being charming, smart and sexy! Women love men who are successful and powerful and everybody’s got something. 😉 Let me know if that helps — or if you want to be more specific and I can respond in kind.

Let me know how it goes — and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter as well as on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[Loverboy15]

Thank you for your advice April. To clarify though what is the best way to flirt? Usually I end up giving to many compliments to women and they don’t take that as flirting. Is their a specific approach I could use to get her to see as more than just a friend but without making it obvious and making her feel uncomfortable since we are friends?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Good question! 😀 My first piece of advice is that you read Date Out of Your League: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. It’s got lots of advice on how to flirt, when to flirt and with whom to flirt! 😉

Flirting is a tool in the art of seduction and it’s highly underrated. Compliments are fine, but don’t forget that you want to let the woman know you’re interested in her as more than a friend, so make sure your compliments are not the same kind you’d give a friend and that you show your attitude when you’re flirting with your body language. I hope you’ll buy and read Date Out of Your League because there is WAY more valuable information there than I can spell out here.

Hope you read it — and that you follow me @AskAprilcom (no dot!) on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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