[Jellylicious]

Hello there!

Ugh.. it’s quite hard to tell someone I don’t know about my problem. First of all, I would like to apologize for my kind of bad English, however I guess it’s good enough for you to understand me. Basically… I am in love with a guy. What’s even more surprising.. is that I am a guy too, meaning I might be gay. I can tell you the story of how it all happened and what is still going on.

Basically, the school has begun, I left primary school and now I visit secondary school. First days were kind of boring, because I barely knew anyone, so I was looking around and saw a guy who was really cute.. I mean really cute! I kind of fell in love with him. Unfortunately, he is not my classmate, but he visits the same school as I do. It’s been 2 months and we still haven’t talked. I am slowly noticing that he keeps looking at me, which makes me kind of happy. The only problem is that I can’t translate his body language neither do I know if he is straight or not. I would like to become his friend first, but it’s hard to me, since I am a really quiet, shy and asocial guy. Can you please help me or give me some advise on how to get started? Thank you so much! By the way, if you have any questions, do not hesitate to ask me.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Ask him to join you in doing some fun things — whether it’s going to a movie, having coffee together, going for a walk or whatever you like to do that’s fun. When you invite someone to spend time with you doing an activity, you get to know them and you get to see how you get along and you get to see if he likes you the same way you like him! Take the first step and ask him to join you on some sort of fun adventure. 😉

[Sally]

First, nothing about what you’re feeling is wrong or strange. A lot of people realize they might like the same gender exactly like this quietly, unexpectedly, just noticing someone and feeling pulled toward them. You don’t need to label yourself right now. You’re allowed to just feel what you feel.

The looking back and forth could mean curiosity, or it could mean nothing. Body language is tricky, especially at your age, so try not to read too much into every glance. The safest and best first step isn’t romance it’s familiarity. Something simple. A hi in the hallway. Sitting nearby if you ever have the chance. Asking a basic question about school. You don’t need confidence, just repetition.

Friendship is the right place to start, especially since you don’t know if he’s straight. Take pressure off yourself. You’re not behind. You’re just new to this part of yourself.
Go slow. Be kind to yourself. You’re doing okay, even if it doesn’t feel like it yet.

[Tara]

You’re tiptoeing around: you’re not “confused,” you’re scared, and fear is the only thing keeping this stuck.
You didn’t fall in love. You developed a crush because you’re lonely, observant, and bored in a new environment. That’s normal. What’s not normal is sitting for two months doing absolutely nothing while inventing a fantasy based on eye contact and vibes like it’s a soap opera.

Let’s get something straight immediately: staring does not equal attraction. People look. Especially teenagers. Especially in new schools. You have zero evidence of anything beyond curiosity. Stop trying to decode body language like it’s some mystical language; it’s not. You’re guessing because guessing feels safer than acting.

Now, about the “I might be gay” part: stop dramatizing it. Liking a guy doesn’t require a press release or a label. You don’t need to solve your entire identity before saying hello to someone. That’s avoidance disguised as self-reflection.
And your biggest problem? You’re hiding behind “I’m shy, quiet, asocial” like it’s a diagnosis instead of a habit. Those are behaviors, not life sentences. No one is coming to rescue you from them. If you don’t speak, nothing happens. Ever.
If you want to be his friend, you open your mouth and talk. Do not confess feelings. Not flirt. Not stare from across the room. You say something painfully simple like “hey, I’ve seen you around, what class are you in?” That’s it. If you can’t manage that, then accept that this goes nowhere and stop torturing yourself.

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