[TheOneGod13]

I started working at my current job 3 years ago and fell for a girl there. I found out she is actually Russian, and wasn’t sure how to approach her. After a year or so i started to talk to her here and there to get to know her. On valentines day i gave her a card, some roses and her favorite chocolate. She seem very pleased, making eye contact with me, not afraid to be somewhat close to me, She kept showing me signs that she was interested. When i try to ask her out she would always say things like maybe, or idk, or just change the subject.

I sent her flowers the other day to let her know i was still interested, but she said she did’nt want gifts like that from friends, which was one of the first times she considered me a friend. I decided to be more assertive and she tells me shes not ready to date any guys at this time. Although i tried to remain respectful of her decision, I couldn’t help myself but to still try to ask her out, but as friends and nothing more. She still gives me the “idk” or “I’ll think about it”.

She doesn’t live too far from me, and the past couple times i tried to go over there for a friendly visit, no one answer the door even though I’m 90 percent sure shes home.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re turning into a stalker. 😕 When you say you [i]tried to respect her decision not to date you, but you can’t help yourself….[/i] I got chills. Don’t show up at her house unannounced and uninvited any more. This is clearly crossing a line.

My advice is to try and find someone who is receptive to your lovely gestures. I know you think you’re in love, but you haven’t dated her or really befriended her. This is just infatuation you have with someone you think you know, but don’t. Look elsewhere, and if a woman doesn’t accept a date or even a second date, stop asking and move on.

Dating is a numbers game, and rejection is your friend — if your respect it — because it lets you know you’ve hit a wall and you need to bounce back into the game and find a woman who wants to date you and enjoy your company! If you’ve got more questions, consider reading a book I wrote for men called Date Out of Your League [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. It will give you lots of tips and advice to steer you back on the road to dating and winning with women.

I hope that helps!

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