[Anonymous]

my boyfriend and I have been going out for about 7 months now, and I find myself feeling insecure about our relationship lately … While I admit that I make him work hard in the bedroom (or in our case our cars…) he doesn’t really do much else in the way of our relationship… we don’t go on dates, and when we hang out with his friends, I always feel left out because they always go off on stories of things they did in the past, or they’ll start talking about inside jokes, and when i don’t say anything he’ll either not notice im not saying anything, or he’ll jokingly slap me in my face when he walks by and tells me to wake up, which i dont enjoy because I dont like people touching my face very often due to past experiences, and when I tell him something thats kinda important, like why I wont be able to meet him during the weekend, he rarely remembers the first time i tell him, and I find myself repeating myself often… he also doesn’t seem to try and make me feel special, and I know that i’ve tried to make him know he’s a special part of mine … Im not saying i want him to do something amazingly huge or whatever, but i would like him to do something to make me feel like im a special part of his life … I fee like we’re stuck somewhere between fuck buddies and being in a relationship … I don’t know what to do because I love him despite all of these things that make me feel insecure about our relationship… help!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Insecurity isn’t a very sexy or attractive feature, and if you’re in a relationship that’s bringing out this side of you, it’s time to reconsider the relationship. If a guy doesn’t make you feel special — why stay with him?! 😕 And if you’re just friends with benefits, AND you don’t feel special with him, but you continue to stay — instead of allowing him to chase after you and win you, you’ve flung the booby prize at him (and that booby prize is you! 😳 ). Don’t you want to be the grand, first prize that he’s proud of?

I know you SAY you love him, but why would you love someone who makes you feel insecure because he wants to have sex with you without taking you on dates or making you feel like you’re someone he’s proud to be with? That’s not love — it’s a bad habit. Time for a change, I’m afraid — but you’re going to be much better when you make that switch.

I hope that helps, and that you’ll let me know how things go. You can also follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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