[Anonymous]

Hi, I met this guy on the bus a few months ago and on valentines day he gave me his number. I’m 15 and hes 19. He seemed extremely interested and made a lot of effort to hang out. When we finally hung out, it was great. Hes so funny, sweet and we have a lot in common. Later that night, he kissed me goodnight and texted me after. We continued to talk and then I went to bed. The next day he texted me as well but in the middle of the conversation he stopped texting me which he never does but I thought it was nothing and went on with my day. The next day he texted me and the same thing happened. He kept doing it a few times after that. Today he texted me saying “hello?” I asked him if he had been getting my texts and he said he hadn’t gotten a text from me since the night before.. Even though I texted him that morning.. I thought his phone was broken or something and that would explain for what hes been doing. We continued texting a lot longer then before so I thought I was correct about his phone.. I said i had to shower and he told me to text him after, so I did. After my shower I said “done” and he said “hey” then I said “whats up?” again, no reply…. He never used to do this, he used to text me all the time and we would talk all night.. And our date was not bad by the way, he was very happy after and was obviously very interested in me. Why is he all of a sudden being so hot and cold, I don’t think its his phone…. ?
thanks,
Danielle

[April Masini, your AskApril]

There’s a big difference between a 15 year old girl’s life and a 19 year old guy’s life. Those four years don’t mean as much when you’re in your 20s, 30s, 40s and on up. But now, while you’re still a relatively new teenager, and he’s in college or out in the world working, the difference is huge. What you may not realize is that he’s texting lots of women — and you’re just one of them. His abrupt absences are because he got another text he as more interested in. I’m sure he really did like you — but he likes a lot of women, and to be frank, he’s more interested in women who are older and more available in the same ways he is.

It’s not you — it’s the age difference. My advice is to keep being your sweet and open self, but focus on guys closer to your own age and life experience for now. You’ll have plenty of time for big age differences to mean nothing, but for now, they do mean a lot.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and I hope you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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