[Jade1993]

I’ve known this guy for around a year now, when we met I was with someone but we always had chemistry. I am now single.
A month ago I attended a work event to help him and we ended up having sex. Which was great, we were both a little drunk but both really enjoyed it. He was very effectionate the following day, asking how I was, giving me a sly kiss but not often.
A few weeks later I drunk text him asking to meet up for no strings sex, we went for dinner first then watched a few films, then had sex several times and the following day we went out and walked his dogs together.
He texts occasionally through the week, asking how I am, how my daughter is ect. The following weekend from our hook up he called and after chatting a while he said he was waiting for his invite to come and see me, he suggested to come to mine the next weekend.
I’m so confused as he’s not specifically said he wants sex but neither has he said he wants a relationship with me. He will sleep with me and not reply to my texts for hours but he will call me and we could talk for days. He kisses me when we are together, never kicks me out of bed Like a quick bit of fun and treats me so nicely but he’s so hard to read and I just don’t know if I’m falling for someone who wants nothing more than a friends with benefits.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Since it’s only been a month, and he seems to be interested in continuing to see you, I think you should try to chill and let things play out so you can get to know him and he can get to know you. He definitely likes you, but because of the hook up nature of the start of the relationship, you’re confused. My advice is to try and start acting less like a hook up and more like a girlfriend. Don’t be so available and give him something to chase after so he has to pursue you — and not the other way around. 😉 If you can do that, then the character of the relationship will change and you’ll feel more like a girlfriend who’s liked and less like a hook up who’s liked when there’s sex.

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