Its a situation where a friends with benefits arrangement took a turn for the worst! Once feelings became involved everything between me and this guy went South. To make a very long story short, me and this one guy have been bickering, arguing, fighting each other since this past April up until last week. The way we’ve gone at each other, things we’ve said, people on the outside who don’t know the whole story would think we were in some lengthy relationship that ended badly. We’ve said harsh things to each other over the course of nine months off and on. Its clear he’s angry and resentful towards me and faithfully refuses to talk to me about the real reason why so we can put it behind us.
The most recent incident, I sent him a message telling him that I was happy for him that he and his ex-girlfriend got back together and that he was in love and that I wasn’t being realistic before about him and me and that I wanted to close the chapter for good. He sends me a message back that I wasn’t expecting that said “[b] Judge me not by the things you see when you look at me, but by the content of my character, the truth will set you free[/b] “. I didn’t know how to take that, but from there it seemed like we were back on speaking terms. A week later when I asked him if me being black had anything to do with why he distanced himself from me and why he treated me the way he did before, he snapped! He told me it didn’t matter, asked me why I kept at it and asking him questions like that and to just stop. He then tells me ” If you don’t know that I don’t like you cause you’re crazy, then you’re crazy “. From there I tell him that it was definitely too good to be true and to have a great life.
I don’t understand the hostility or why I seem to be the only one that provokes him. I mention emotional abuse because its been nine months of verbal abuse and pain, but no clue where its coming from in dealing with a guy whose said he has no feelings for me and doesn’t like me.
