[elizabeth1227]

I’ve been sleeping with this guy for six months now. From the moment I met him I was crazy about him but I concealed it because on our first “date” he told me he wasn’t looking for a girlfriend and, not to mention, he has a reputation for being a “hit it & quick it” kinda guy. At first, it was extremely casual, he didn’t really do the whole cuddle thing, and I played it cool. I wouldn’t text him, I made sure he texted me, I didn’t make myself available for him, hard to get, you know the deal. My cousins baby daddy is his best friend since they were six years old and he always tells me how surprised he is that his friend still comes around me and is also surprised by the “excessive amount of time he wants to spend with me”. This guy will give me random kisses out of nowhere, will have me sit on his lap, wants to cuddle, says things to me like “You are a really beautiful girl.” “Why would I ever let you go anywhere?” and when we originally started talking, I told him I didn’t like him, at first he didn’t say anything, after a couple weeks he was constantly telling me “Well, ya know, you don’t like me.” Like he was looking for reassurance that I did like him. He always wants me to spend the night and one weekend he invited me over and asked me if I wanted to go to New York City with him for the weekend. We went, just the two of us, had an amazing time, he wanted to make sure I saw everything I wanted to see while we were out there even though he was hung over and exhausted that day. One the way back, half way through the trip, he asked me if I wanted to stay with him one more night at his place when we got back, I said sure. He spent four consecutive days in a row with me, which, is unheard of from him. When he told his friends he was still with me they said things like “What are you dating her or somethin’?” or “Damnnn you’re STILL with that girl?!” He also takes me around his friends a lot and they always say hi when they call and I’m with him and he says they love me. We also don’t have sex every time we hang out. For instance, that weekend we didn’t have sex Friday, just Saturday and Sunday, we didn’t have sex on Monday either, but he’s still the one initiating the cuddling and the random kisses. Also, he just recently started saying “I love you” to me. He made it clear it wasn’t like THAT but it’s just really weird I guess? Also, when he gets drunk he’ll say things to me like “I’m a bad guy, you don’t wanna date me.” “I have a son.” “I don’t wanna girlfriend…but, I like you.” and I said, “Okay, that’s cool.” and laughed and he said it again as if he was trying to hint at something. The one night he even went as far as to tell me to drop all the other guys I was talking to and he would do the same with the girls he talks to. Keep in mind, all of this is said when he’s drunk, the next day he doesn’t bring it up, I have mentioned it lightly, like teasing him, and he’s like “Damn, I was drunk!” He also has a son, he has had me over with him and his son as well. When he’s sober he will say things to me like, “I figure after I get everything figured out and get my life straightened out so I got everything straight for my boy then I’ll settle down. Probably in the next two or three years, you’ll be around then right? You better be around.” And will just smile at me.

I guess I just don’t know what to make of this. I respected him because he was direct in the beginning so I wasn’t gonna let myself go there but now, it seems like he’s confused or there’s alot of mixed signals, and I don’t know if I should let myself go there (although, I think I unintentionally already did), keep going like we have been and see what happens and if it’s meant to be it will be, or what? Opinions are greatly appreciated, I’m kinda lost here! Lol!

Thank you 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

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