[missy81]

Im just wondering if it is normal for my boyfriend(an adult) wanting me to move in with him and have his female best friend visit and stay the night and he goes to her house and visit her and stays the night at her house…im asking if this is normal cause i dont know how best friends act.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

No. It’s not normal. 😳

[missy81]

[quote=”April Masini”]No. It’s not normal. 😳[/quote]

Thanx…what do i do about it? Btw we do have a kid together and have been together for a few years now.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

How old are you both? How old is your child? How long have you been living together?

Let me know, and I’ll answer your questions! 🙂

[missy81]

[quote=”April Masini”]How old are you both? How old is your child? How long have you been living together?

Let me know, and I’ll answer your questions! 🙂[/
quote]

He is in his late 20’s and im in my early 20’s ..our child is 3. We dont live together but have been together for about 4 years
He wants me to move into a house with him

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

Got it! Thank you. 🙂

Your boyfriend is dating another woman, from what you’re writing, and I don’t recommend you move in with him because of that. Men and women aren’t friends — there’s always more interest and deeper feelings with at least one of the two people, at any one time or another, and that creates a dishonesty that isn’t part of a friendship. At his age, a female friend who has regular sleep over dates at his house, and hosts them for him at hers, is not a friend. She’s a date or a girlfriend. He’ll probably try to convince you otherwise, and it’s up to you to decide how you want to live YOUR life. 😉 In other words, don’t tell him what to do or give him an ultimatum — those don’t work. Instead, my advice is to co-parent with him because you have a three year old together, but don’t count on him as anything other than a co-parent because he’s seeing this other woman in the way that he is. Instead, move on with your own life, knowing who he is. If he really cares about you, when he sees you’re moving on, he can try and win you back. If part of his trying to win you back involves his monogamy, then you might want to consider the relationship with a future. Otherwise, don’t sell yourself a bill of goods. I know you don’t believe him deep down because you wrote and asked me a question you already knew the answer to. 😉 Sometimes people want me to confirm what they already know, and I’m happy to do that for you.

I hope that helps. 😀

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