[3rikzzon]

Okey so we have been talking for about 5-6 months now. We are in the same university course/class. We kind of clicked the first time we talked at a formal dinner we were at and he took my number and snapchat and we we like sitting close and holding hands but like no kissing, more like hand on thigh thing going on. So since then we have been talking and snachating every almost single day since then. Second time we were at the club, he had asked me earlier if I were going out that weekend and he had his friends so we would might meet up. And so we did, his friends loved/liked me alot, uhm and we ended up talking all night and being close and so on. Still nothing happend, but his friend were like “oo this guy has a double bed” and ceept like saying weird stuff, about this guy that I like. But yeah so I went home.
We keept talking for a few mor weeks/months. And we meet up at our kind of formal dinner that our class made for the seniors. And once again we kind of hanged out, and I were like kind of on him, like standing really close playing a little with his shirt while talking to him. And like i feelt the tension but still like nothing?
So the thing is why I am being slow is tha Im 19 have no experince what so ever, never kissed a boy/girl so I was like “am I being rude if I kiss him? What if he thinks I am weird if I kiss him etc”. And one of his friends also goes in our class and he told another girl that He was waiting for us (me and the boy i like) that something would happen. But It feels like when we are at our lectures and so on he is like distant, but not really? It super confusing, and I feel like the best way that he will understand that I like him is if Im like kissmakout yeah so then he will get it, but I dont want to make it weird if he just wants to be friend?? 🙁

[AskApril Masini]

It’s very confusing to be 19 and like someone when you probably both don’t have a lot of dating experience. So relax. This will all work out. First of all, don’t kiss him first. Let him be the one to go in for the first kiss — if it’s going to happen. Guys love being the ones to win you over and kiss you for the first time, so don’t take that away from him. Also, if you do kiss him, and then nothing happens, you’re going to be in the same situation you are now, but feeling even more awkward. So hold off on the kiss, and if there’s gong to be one, let him lead.

Second, flirting is the tool you can use to get a guy to know you like him. Guys do want to chase — but they need to know there’s something to chase after. Compliment him, talk to him, ask him questions about himself and his life and let him know with your behavior that you like him as more than friends. This will give him courage (guys get nervous about making the first move, often) and you’ll be paving the way for him to ask you out.

I hope that helps!

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