[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for several years and have always gotten along very well. We have similar interests and goals and enjoy each others company very much. We have had a great relationship for the most part and have been happy together.

The one major issue is that when we do get into little arguments, he has to blow them completely out of proportion and then will give me the silent treatment for days and sometimes even weeks. This is especially frustrating living together. I’ve tried talking to him and telling him that ignoring me doesn’t solve anything, but he still continues to do the same thing.

Is this something worth ending things over? He refuses to budge on the issue and when I bring it up it just leads to more days of him ignoring me. Things are good between us otherwise, but this has become extremely frustrating and it makes me so upset when he does it.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The question looms: what will happen if you’re married and he does this? How about if you have children together and he does this? If he’s not mature enough to handle blow ups in a cooperative way, you’re looking at some chaos down the line. Talk to him about these issues and if he doesn’t care, then he may be too self-centered to consider marrying and having children with. When you have kids, and there are fights between the parents (and having fights is normal), the way they get resolved and the way you express yourselves, is more important than ever. You’re wise to deal with this issue now.

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