[Juelz16]

So I’ve been attracted to my co worker Ashley ever since she started working with me 3 years ago. I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years with another woman. We have all hung out together numerous times. My girlfriend has always said my co worker Ashley is interested in me because of the way she looks and acts around me. Ashley has always flirted with me at work. Smacking my ass. She gets close to me every time she comes into the room. She puts her breasts on my back and gets close.

She invited me to her house to hang out. We had fun watched TV and hung out and she made me dinner. The next night I found myself at her house again. This time she was giving me all the signs show wanted me to kiss her, so I did. We locked lips for 45 secs and she pushed me away and said no you’re in a relationship with a girl I like and know plus we are coworkers. In reply I said but you didn’t push me away at first and she giggled and said I know and smiled. Little did she know at the time my girlfriend and I were splitting up. So at work the next week everything was normal. Flirted and talked as usual. I told her about my relationship coming to an end and she acted all sympathetic. She invited me over again for dinner. This time she told me to promise her no funny business or nonsense kisses like last time. If I couldn’t keep it I shouldn’t come over. I told her I wouldn’t. She said we are friends and I don’t want to cross that line. So I went over and just acted as a friend. There were a few times she hinted to me she wanted me to make a move when she was lying on her bed. I stayed true to my promise and left that night without making a move. The next day at work I didn’t say much to her but before she left she smacked my ass again and asked if I could help her with a simple task. I agreed and as I helped she acted all ditzy. We text each other at least everyday. Sometimes she doesn’t respond until the next day.

I’m confused at her actions. It’s been awhile since I’ve been single. Is she playing hard to get and is testing the waters with me and doesn’t want to move to fast? She says one thing but her body language suggest differently. She always tells me she is better off single and is used to being alone. What should I do?

Thanks,
Dave

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Since you’re coming out of a long-term relationship, it’s a great idea to test the waters and have some fun — and simply, feel single by dating. 🙂 Ashley is definitely interested in you as more than a friend, but she’s teasing you and contradicting herself by saying she wants a professional relationship, but then acting like she wants to date. But you’re focused on what she wants, instead of what you want. 😉

My advice is to play along if you’re interested in her, but also date other people. If she sees, or simply catches wind that you’re moving on from your ex, in an active way, she may take you more seriously as a potential date and start acting like one, knowing there’s competition for you! In addition, if you do have other prospects at hand, you’ll carry yourself differently — with more confidence, which seems to breed attraction. 😉 On the other hand, if she really has no interest in anything besides just having some fun, and is serious about not wanting to be in a relationship, you’ll smoke her out if you ask her to go on a real date, like dinner and a movie, and call it a date. 😉

I hope that helps!

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[Juelz16]

Thanks, April

So you think she is playing hard to get and trying to see if I’m really interested in her even though I’ve made a move? Is she just trying to feel me out to see if I’m really interested in her and not just getting in her pants? Yes, I’m very interested in her and wouldn’t mind dating her. We’ve been friends for 3 years and I feel that we both know each other very well. Since she invited to her house for dinner twice, should I ask her out for dinner/ drinks? We text each other a lot. She responds sometimes with one or two word texts and sometimes she writes a paragraph. She’ll text me out of the blue about random things. Sometimes about masterbating… And about being single 🙄 when she’s not at work she’ll text me to see what tomorrow’s work load is like when she could text her girl co workers instead.

Thanks,

Dave

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you should definitely ask her out on a real date. It’s a great way to a) Get real information about her interest in dating you, b) Put you in the driver’s seat instead of playing defense and guessing games, and c) Let her know what you want!

I hope that helps!

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[Juelz16]

Thanks April,

You’ve been a big help. I’ll keep you updated.

Dave

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome. 😀

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