We dated for 3 years and she broke it off for another guy (a neighbor where she has a summer cottage in the next state over from us), and also with lack of communications between us (she does not like to discuss difficult issues). She told me that she was more curious about him and it was a physical attraction with him, along with the fact that I was not able to financially date her for her comfort zone. She is NOT a gold digger or looking for a money guy, and we had small battles over the check where she’d not let me pay. I was on disability and working part time. Currently, I live with my mom as a caregiver and work very part time. She praises me and talks to me to help me with my plight of being a sole caregiver.
We still stayed in contact for 2 years, but it was not easy. During this 2 year period we’d do lunch here and there, talk quite a bit. She admitted that he was full of shit and that also she had an emotional attachment to me that he could not fulfill.
Over the past year, here and there, we started in bed again, but I was clear to her that I was not going to ‘date’ her letting come back and she agreed. She also respected me for not trying to have a sexual relationship and standing strong on my position of not wanting her if she was seeing him. Eventually, she started letting him go or they stopped their thing. When she goes to the cabin where she is, she started calling me and texting me even at night.
Recently (past 3-4 months) she has been asking me to do things on a regular basis like go to the beach, lunch & dinner out, cooking dinner to try recipes, movies, antique shopping, talking about vacations out of state, and also initiating sexual chat and increasing her sexual excitement in bed. And then SUDDENLY, she started having anxiety issues with work and was distant to me and it was hard to see her, but still she would stay in contact with me when at the cabin and would talk to me anytime I called her or texted her.
Last week I visited her to watch the game, and we ended up in bed at half time. She had up an obvious wall and seemed to not want to let me down while not letting herself get too far into her ‘pleasure’. Afterwards we chatted in bed, watched a ballgame, and snacked in bed for a good hour and a half laughing and joking. A few days later when I asked her about her state of mind that night, she said that she want to protect my feelings.
Now that you have the overview of this complicated situation … since she started initiating a lot, having fun, … could she be getting ‘cold feet’ in our situation?
