It sounds like the break up isn’t the result of a single fight, but is the result of several months of arguments during a pressure-filled time in your boyfriend’s life. I think he’s decided the two of you aren’t compatible because he needs someone who is either more independent or more understanding and flexible when it comes to his schedule and/or lifestyle.
What you need to figure out is if you’re just sad that you lost him and are trying to get him back and change yourself in a way that isn’t organic to who you really are, and won’t stick — or if you need someone who can give you more time in a relationship. I know you miss him, but this is an opportunity to learn more about yourself and what you need.
If a woman wants a lot of attention from a man, she probably shouldn’t marry someone with an intense career like a surgeon or a policeman or a businessman who works Wall Street, because his career is going to take up a lot of time. On the other hand, there are women who are completely fine with that kind of time sharing dynamic. And the same goes for men dating women who have certain types of careers. Really find out what you want in life, and honor that because it’s the only way you’ll find Mr. Right — by knowing yourself well. 😉
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