[cjalexxx]

Dear April,

I recently met a guy from an online site, about a week ago. We met at the beach one night and hit it off great, I think. We have met, slept together twice, and have hung out together at his place a couple times (all in a week). We both have really similar personalities (down to earth, reserved, super chill), but he’s a talker and I’m a little more shy. I don’t think he minds that part… I know it has only been a little over a week, but I wanted to get your advice on how a shy girl like me can make this work. Seeing as how I have already slept with this guy, will that make it hard for a relationship to happen? Also, he works and I don’t, so I hate texting or calling him first because I know he’said busy. Recently, we hadn’t spoken in 3 days time because he was busy, but he did text me on the 4th day. I texted him back, but did not get a reply. What could that imply? or could my text have not gone through. Like I said, I know it has only been a week, but should I tread lightly?

[AskApril Masini]

Use the first three months of dating him to simply get to know him and decide if you want to continue dating him. Assume that he’s dating other people during this early stage in the relationship, and you can be, too. 😉 Let him lead, and if he doesn’t make contact for three days, but does so on the fourth day, then you’ve learned that he’s interested in talking to you once a week or so. Since you’re not working you probably have more free time than he does, so be careful not to focus too much on him and this relationship. It’s way too early in the dating relationship to expect him to contact you daily, so once a week is fine. It doesn’t mean anything bad. You’ll know if the relationship is going somewhere after several months of dating. Let it play out and focus on learning about each other, not snagging a commitment too soon. 😉

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