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I’ve been dating with my boyfriend almost a year.. everything is going fine except this one problem.
every relationship probably has jealousy issue but it seems likes its too much for me..
i usually get jealous a little bit more than nomral people ( I think).
I like this guy too much I feel like as if Im obsessed.. it’s not like I don’t let him even talk to any girls
I ldon’t really care if he talks to his close friends.. but when he just talks to normal friend-gal. I get so angry and jealous and although I try to hide it, it clearly shows on my face that i hate it..
I don’t like the idea of introudcing my friends because I”m too scared. I really hate this feeling of “insecure”. At the beginning of the relatinoship it ws fine but now it’s at the point where I can’t sleep because I’m too worried if he even get to know one new girl. So all he meets is just guy friends because he knows I get jealous too easily. I already talked this with him and he sid he wont talk to any girls even my friends.. What should I do about this… he didn’t do anything wrong which would give me mistrust but i always feel insecure and worry 24/7…its getting worse and worse…

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

How old are you both?

[ericfont12]

we are both 20..

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

You’re right — you have to do something about your behavior because your feelings of jealousy and your need to control him is going to cause you to lose him — and other boyfriends after him. 😳 It’s normal to be a little jealous or envious now and then, but it’s not normal to act on these behaviors to the extent that you’re controlling another person and driving them away.

The best way to help yourself is to look at the bigger picture:

1. You’re probably going to date men who are attractive — not just to you, but to others. So there will always be other women who think your boyfriend/s are attractive, and they’re going to flirt with them. Fact. Would you really want an ugly boyfriend who every woman ran from? 😆 No, I know you wouldn’t. So understand that you’re going to be with hot guys who will get female attention. (But you’ll get male attention, too! And your boyfriend is going to be YOUR boyfriend, so if he’s the object of flirting, or if he flirts back, he’s still yours! 😎 )

2. Just because other women like your man does not mean he’s going to leave you or cheat on you. In fact, these other women who find him attractive are a great way to find out if the relationship you’re in is one that you can relax into. If it’s not, and you’re always worried about him leaving you or cheating on you — it’s not a good relationship for you. 😕 If your man makes you feel secure, and doesn’t do anything to lose your trust, then you’ll know you’ve got a great guy! 😉

3. You’re young and you don’t have a lot of experience dating, so you have to take a look at the dating world to understand that dating[i] is a way to find out if the person you’re with is someone you want to continue to invest in.[/i] Every day you get a choice to stay with him or not (and vice versa). If you’re not happy with this guy — or if he’s not happy with you — it’s MUCH better to move on from each other so you can both have the opportunity to find Mr. and Ms Right.

Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 🙂

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