[Anonymous]

Hi 🙂
well here is the problem. Me and my boyfriend were dating whilst he was an exchange student over here. It was a very very tearful airport trip and I haven’t stopped thinking about it. When he got home he skyped me straight away and even though he started back at his school, I got up every morning early to talk to him and it was immediate that every time i would log on he would be there 🙂 and we would talk. He still called me his girlfriend and honey and things and told me how much he missed me.. he told me that so much is depressing for him. hes an only child, his friends have changed since his exchange, the weather is depressing and recently he harmed his ankle whilst playing volleyball (sport is everything to him) then.. suddenly some things changed. Like he stopped sending hearts and xx (which sounds totally ridiculous but, when you are online.. every one of them counts) and so I figured something was up. We talked just as much and nothing changed in that.. but I sent him an email asking why he finds it so hard to express himself etc etc. He then got really angry, accusing me of thinking this was a very serious exclusive relationship (which I knew it wasnt, and we had talked about it before he left) and he called me naive.. but didnt say what for. I was so upset I signed off.. and then the next day he msgd me saying i dont know what i said wrong or what i did can you tell me im so sorry.. I miss you so much. I then just let out my anger and said that he should not treat me like that and that I hope he feels as awful as I do. He had to go and ended the conversation saying we should talk another time, i really miss you. Anyway, I am so confused.. and he seemed really upset. I don’t know what is going on in that head of his but I would like to know what to do to make this all better and find out what he was thinking
Thanks 😀

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Now that he’s back in his own country, he’s dating other women. He doesn’t want to hurt you, so he doesn’t tell you directly. He also still has feelings for you which is why he gets upset when you get upset. He called you naive because he wants you to automatically know, without his having to tell you, that he’s dating other women.

I know this is hurtful, but I hope my deciphering his behavior for you helps.

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