My boyfriend and I have been dating since high school and this is my only serious relationship. We talk about getting married and having kids but finances are holding us back. I am now in my last year of medical school and he has not finished undergrad. He takes classes off and on but he is currently not in school because he says he wants to work and save up money, but it has already been 8 years since he started. I have been concerned about his lack of progress toward a stable career and more so by his lack of clear goals. He is working currently, but he always said he wanted to go to pharmacy school until I recently asked him to write down his goals and there was no mention of pharmacy at all. I have been feeling a lack of confidence in our future together because he has not shown much drive or commitment in finding a career he will enjoy or toward becoming financially stable and he does not like to communicate with me about career or finances. I have no problem making more than my husband, but I want him to have a good career that he enjoys and for us to be comfortable financially. We have discussed my concerns many times but he feels as though I do not understand his situation. I love him and we are compatible in many ways. I know some people take longer than others to find their path in life and I have been trying to be patient. I can’t imagine leaving him but I don’t want to make his life miserable by getting married and being resentful toward him for not having reached the potential I see in him.
