[shyman]

Well its basically about having no chance with this girl off my course what so ever. i like her a lot and she isn’t interested at all, we did get on well together even with her knowing that I have strong feelings for her, and have been good friends on and off for the past two yrs. I really just want to be her friend and have a laugh but I don’t think that is going to happen now. we recently spoke about it, I explained that I felt she could belittle me at times and be ignorant with me at times and that there is absolutley nothing wrong with the way I feel, which I don’t think there is to be honest, and that I was sick and tired of it as I thought she was a friend. she said that I have to understand why she can be like this, which I do, but she doesnt have to make me feel like rubbish. she then said she would never change her opinion about me, doesn’t want to know how I feel and doesn’t want to know when I am upset. she said she would speak to other people more off our course than she does to me. I am upset as she doesn’t feel the same way, basically knowing I have no chance what so ever as she has stated she is not going to change. I am also confused as the things she said were very hurtful towards me but then I said following, I really jus want to be friends with her and have a laugh. she said she shouldn’t see this conversation as a problem when we see each other in uni. she then said she would be there for me as a friend but things probably won’t be the same as they were before, she did feel we got on really well then said she doesn’t know about us being close friends again, we will just have to see what happens that you never know what might happen.

I cannot stop thinking about how I have messed up so much with her and what she thinks of me now. I feel she thinks that I am a loser, desperate and have no chance with her. I am really upset about this as I have lost her as a friend, I wanted to be friends outside of uni with her, she was the best person i got on with on my course and obviously have no chance with her. The problem I have now is returning to uni. I am miserable and do not want to interact with anyone at the moment. I have seen her since the conversation and it was really awkward, i am very miserable at the moment which just isnt helping things what so ever and I keep going over in my head that being miserable is just going to push her away. when she trys to be nice with me I think it is just because of pity and not the fact that she wants to be my friend. i don’t what to do when i see her now….I regret things that I have done and the fact she said she thought we got on really well together like me has made it harder. Being her friend again I do not know if this will ever be, even after a few weeks. But she did say she shouldn’t see this as a problem and that you don’t know how things will pan out.

My problem is I try too hard with people at times and especially with her so just pushed her away. I just want to be happy around her as I only see her in uni and probably only will now. That way when a few weeks pass and things do not get any better, then I can put it down to her not accepting me as a friend and not me being miserable. She did say she was really sorry that she doesn’t feel the same way. We did get on really well together and she also stated that herself.

Cheers.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

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[Badfinger]

This is my gut reaction to your story:
You are overly obsessed with her to the point of nearly psycho to her probably and that is a major turn off most likely I’m afraid.

Get over it, you wanted much more than she was willing to give, move on and don’t sweat it.
So many women available, you WILL find one that more worthy of your time.

I had a lady at my last job who had feelings for me, and she told me she couldn’t be my friend.
I am flattered is what I take away from the experience.
Even if I would have been single and available she had things that made us incompatible.

Other note:
Please use your ENTER key a little more often and proofread long stories, that was very hard to follow/read.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[b]Badfinger[/b], thank you for your input — and your editing suggestions, too! 😉

I’m not sure if [b]shyman[/b] is [i]psycho[/i] 😕 , as you write, but he names his own problem when he says,[i] “I try so hard I push people away.” [/i] If you know what you’re doing wrong, stop doing it. I know it’s harder said than done, but naming it as you did, is half the battle.

Please join me on Facebook. Here’s the link: [url][/url].

[Badfinger]

My nearly psycho reference is just a possibility from her perspective and the term used loosely.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I know… 😉

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