[Postivelove]

Me + my boyfriend are planning a future + want to move out right when I turn 18 cause our parents don’t like our relationship his mom has called me bad names acts all nice + says she likes us in person + there’s no issue when we are all together for a family event either houses. His dad likes me no issue . My parents like him they say my mom complains about his mom cause they don’t get along ends up my boyfriend never wants to come over cause what my mom says my both always tell me to break up with him ends up we always hang out at his house + my parents get mad cause he doesn’t want to go to my house + I’m getting tired of going to his house. Both of us are always happy and all good when we hang out alone like in public or at his house alone once we hit family topic + be with family its all hell loose break so that’s why we want I to move in with him everything is good when we are together alone he’s already given me a promise ring weve already bought stuff for our own apartment + both talk about our future +what we want in our lives and agree not usual for a young guy to talk about a future he’s told me he wants to marry me when we get older we both want to me 2 move in with when I turn 18 he will already have an apartment in a couple month’s September + it would be like 3 months December when I turn 18. Weve planned it but are scared to tell parents. But for sure we want to do this I need advice would it help our relationship + change things for our parents to acutally see that we do love each other

[Ask April Masini]

Take one step at a time. It sounds like you have a loving, committed relationship, but you’re still living at home and your parents aren’t supportive all the time. Since you want to move out at age 18 to avoid the parental conflict, why not take an interim step: Get jobs and move out so you can support yourselves living separately, or with roommates, but not together just yet. This step will help you avoid a rushed romantic move. It gives you the opportunity to solve your problem, but not rush into a living together. While you’re working and living independently from your parents, you can date and see what it’s like to live adult lives with responsibilities and forge a mature relationship with each other beyond what you have. It’ll be a mature, building block towards something bigger. If things go well for six to twelve months of dating, while living on your own, then consider moving in together. I know you’re upset about his mother’s feelings about you, but you wouldn’t be the first girlfriend or wife who had mother in law issues. 😉 Breathe. Find your sense of humor and take the high road, and if you do move out, try living with girlfriends who are roommates for the first year away from your parents. It’ll build independence and it’s nice to have the support of good roommates and friends for problems with family — and romantic relationships. 🙂

[Ethan Morales]

You and your boyfriend clearly have a deep connection and share serious plans for the future, which is impressive for your age. The fact that you talk about marriage, living together, and building a life shows emotional maturity on both sides. You also already navigate challenges well when you’re alone together.
However, moving in together at 18 is a big step. Living independently, especially with a romantic partner, brings financial, practical, and emotional responsibilities that can strain even the strongest relationships. The family conflict adds stress as well your parents and his mother aren’t fully supportive yet, and that tension could bleed into your relationship if you move in too soon.
April’s advice is solid: take an interim step. Focus on getting jobs and experience living independently, whether it’s with roommates or in a solo apartment. This allows both of you to learn how to manage adult responsibilities, finances, and household dynamics without immediately layering the pressures of a romantic cohabitation. It’s a chance to grow together emotionally and practically.
Once you’ve established independence and stability for 6–12 months, you’ll have a stronger foundation for living together. By then, your relationship will be tested in small but important ways, which can strengthen it rather than risk burnout early. Your parents and his might start to see that your commitment is serious if they notice your maturity and responsibility sometimes actions speak louder than words.

Bottom line: Your love is strong, but patience now builds resilience for the future. Moving in immediately may feel exciting, but delaying it slightly is likely to help your relationship thrive and reduce stress from family conflicts.
If you want, I can also outline a step-by-step “plan” for the next 6–12 months to prepare for moving in together while keeping your relationship strong and your parents somewhat at ease. Do you want me to do that?

[PassionSeeker]

It’s really clear that you and your boyfriend deeply care about each other and share a strong bond.You’ve both shown maturity by talking about marriage, planning your future, and preparing for your own place. However, as April pointed out, moving in together right when you turn eighteen might be too rushed. It’s important to build stability first and learn how to live independently before taking such a big step. April suggests focusing on work, saving money, and possibly living with roommates to gain experience managing responsibilities without adding extra pressure to your relationship.

Ethan also makes a good point that your relationship is strong, but patience will make it even stronger. Taking time to grow separately before living together gives you both the chance to handle adult life confidently. If your families see you acting maturely and responsibly, they may eventually understand and respect your relationship. You and your boyfriend already have the love and commitment you need—now it’s about building a solid foundation so that when you finally move in together, it feels right, stable, and lasting.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… i get it, you’re in that ride or die, us against the world phase 🖤 but moving in at 18 just to prove love to your parents? that’s not romance, that’s stress with furniture. 😭 love isn’t about escaping , sure, it’ll survive a few more months of patience. just keep saving and glowing and let time do the proving. nothing says “we’re serious” like stability, not rebellion. 💅✨

[Tara]

You’re too naïve to face: moving in together at 18 isn’t a romantic escape — it’s a panic button. You’re not building a future; you’re running from your parents and calling it independence. And the fact that both families are already at each other’s throats should tell you exactly how badly this is going to go once you add rent, bills, stress, and real-life pressure into the mix.

You two can’t even handle a weekend without hiding from someone’s mother, but you think you’re ready to manage leases, utilities, groceries, and the slow grind of adult responsibility? You’re not. You want the aesthetic of adulthood without the discipline, and that’s a guaranteed disaster.

Moving in won’t fix the drama — it will amplify it. His mom will resent you more. Your mom will blame him. And the second the honeymoon phase evaporates, you’ll be stuck staring at each other in a tiny apartment wondering why your “love” feels more like a trap.

[Sally]

You and your boyfriend really do care about each other, and it shows. Things are calm and happy when it is just the two of you, but the family drama on both sides is what keeps causing stress. Moving out right when you turn eighteen will not magically fix the parents or make them approve. It might even make things harder if you jump too fast.

Living together is a big responsibility. It is not the same as hanging out at his house. It means rent, bills, jobs, stress, and real everyday challenges. It is smart to wait until things are steady and you both have a clear plan. Make sure the apartment is real, affordable, and something you both can handle.

When you do tell your parents, being calm and prepared will help a lot. Parents usually react better when they see you are thinking clearly and not acting from frustration. And while you plan, try to keep things polite and peaceful between families, even if it is awkward.

Your relationship does not need to prove anything right now. If you two stay steady and patient, your families will see over time that your love is real. Take it slow, plan it right, and it will go much smoother for both of you.

[Natalie Noah]

Oh love… I can feel how much you and your boyfriend care about each other, and how hard it is when the only real problems in your relationship come from the outside from parents, from tension, from adults who can’t seem to separate your relationship from their own feelings. When you’re together, just the two of you, everything feels peaceful and right. That’s real. That matters. But the pressure from both families is creating a kind of emotional storm that you’re trying to outrun by moving in together as soon as you turn 18. And I get why that feels comforting, your own space, your own rules, no interference. But moving in together out of stress, or to escape conflict, can put a huge weight on a young relationship. You’re still growing, still figuring out who you are as individuals, and you deserve the chance to learn independence without immediately taking on adult responsibilities and a shared household. Living separately at first (with roommates or your own place) gives both of you breathing room… and gives your relationship space to mature without feeling like you’re fighting the world.

Parents often calm down once they see stability not promises, not rings, not plans but actual adult independence. When you’re supporting yourself, making responsible choices, managing your life well… their anxiety naturally shrinks. And your relationship has a better chance of growing in healthy soil, not pressure. You and your boyfriend can keep building your future slowly, intentionally, in a way that protects your love rather than rushing it. If you take your time and show your families that you’re capable, respectful, and stable, they may soften more than you expect. But even if they don’t, you will be stronger and more ready for the commitment you’re dreaming about. Love grows best when you give it time and space, not when you force it to carry too much too soon. And you deserve a future that feels peaceful, not rushed or reactive a future you walk into because it’s right, not because you’re trying to run from chaos.

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