[SophieM]

Hi April,
A week ago, when I was walking in a shopping mall I saw a guy who was carrying sports equipments and luggage. Since I didn’t have an opportunity to see such equipments what he carried in my daily life, I looked at them for several seconds. Then, when we passed each other, he looked and smiled at me. It sounds silly, but at the moment, I was strongly attracted to this complete stranger’s smile. A week has passed and I still can not forget about him. (Even now, I remember the color of his luggage).
I don’t know if I can see him again, but if I do, I don’t want to miss the chance to approach him.
My question is… Do you think he gets scared if he is talked to by a strange woman? and What kind of conversation is ideal as icebreaker?
Usually, I am not attracted to a complete stranger, so I am little confused.

Thanks for your advice in advance!
S

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The perfect way to have broken the ice, in this case, would have been to ask him about the luggage and sports equipment he was carrying. You could have stopped him and said something like, “I hope I’m not bothering you, but I’ve never seen luggage like that before!” If he doesn’t jump in, you can continue and ask him about it. For instance, “Where did you get it? How long have you had it?” People actually love to answer questions about themselves — or their stuff! 🙂 I don’t think he’d be scared — and if he was, he would simply cut the conversation short, which wouldn’t hurt anyone. 😉 Next time, try it!

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[SophieM]

Thank you very much, April !!
Since almost all of my friends are single who are not interested in a relationship, your advice is very helpful 🙂)

It was my first time to be smiled at by a cute young strange man (except for babies 😀 ), so I feel we might have something in common. I hope I will meet him again ( I believe I will 😉 )
Do you think is it OK for me to ask his number or address first ? or Should I wait until he does?

Thank you,
S

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Nooooo — don’t ask for his number or address. Let the guy do the chasing — which means getting your info. Not the other way around! If you have the opportunity to meet this guy again, or just meet any cute guy, flirt with him to let him know you’re interested, but let the guy do the asking. If you don’t, you’ll be writing me several weeks or months later, asking me if he likes you or not, and I’ll tell you that the way you know if a guy likes you is if he pursues you. If you do the pursuing you take that opportunity away from him, and you take away your ability to know how much he likes you. 😉

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[SophieM]

Thanks again April! You’ve been very helpful.

Fortunately, I saw the same guy last week, so I guess now is the time to approach him;-))
I will try not to pursue him first based on your advice, although it might be difficult for me to do this (most of guys I dated were super passive guys who only did what I asked them to do 😥 So I always took the initiative in order to save time.)

well, I’ll keep you updated. Thank you.
S

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Good luck! 😎

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[lindasaw358]

Maybe not if you ask him politely.
Start with “excuse me can I ask you? If he will allow you then say thank you and then smile and follow your question.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you. 😉

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