[hannah_banana]

hello all!

To make it short,I’m 23 and he is 27. We’ve been together for two years and things were great until lately. We had constant arguments about me spending time with him (and his friends) and blending into his lifestyle. I know this issue may sound petty but for him, it was like a big deal.

For instance, he had to go out with his friends (potential clients) and he insisted me to tag along, sure that was really sweet of him but sometimes I do get really bored and I always end up with boring expressions, being dull and once in a while I crave for attention by doing stupid things. I know I sound immature here, it’s just that I am desperate for “two-persons” night instead but he’s been so busy – he needs to meet different people. Another thing is, he loves cars and whenever he asks me out to watch car exhibitions, I would find excuses to stay at home. I cannot stand long conversations about cars (literally!).

Actually, this issue “Me tagging along with his friends” has been going on for quite some time, only recently I already start to show behavior.

Last night we had an awful argument and he thinks I am not being understanding, but I did tell him how I feel and I really want some private nights with him only. At the end, we called it a quit. We both are strong-headed and can never back down to saying, “okay, I will do it for you” or some sort of sacrifices in tolerance and compromising. Am I at fault? I know it’s the end already but I really miss him. Wherever he goes, he wants me to be there.. but due to financial problems, we always stay at home (I’m not complaining). We had been through so much..and now, I am feeling really devastated. I really miss him.

Should I tolerate more?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Since things went great until recently, I think it’s time for the two of you to try and make this rough patch work. Relationships require compromise and sacrifice as well as getting enough of your own needs met to stay in it. It’s a balancing act. If you’re both stubborn and hard headed, you won’t be able to make this work. But if only one of you is stubborn and hard headed at a time — then it [i]can[/i] work!

Since you seem to want the relationship to work out, see if you’re able to soften up and make some compromises. In exchange for going out with his friends or going to car shows, see if he’ll go on some one on one dates with you. They don’t have to be expensive — there are tons of inexpensive and free things to do that suffice as dates. In fact, I’ve written a book called Ideas For A Fun Date that include all sorts of creative dates. You can buy the book here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/ideas-for-a-fun-date.html[/url].

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and I hope you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter, and on Facebook at this link:[url][/url].

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